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So today I'm coming at you with a very Jillism, Jillosophy, whatever the fuck it is with your half-ass energy. I send really long fucking voice notes. When you are my client on Voxer, get ready because I literally send the longest voice notes. Sometimes I just get on a roll and I'll be like, you know what? This person needs to fucking hear this. I also am not a big fan of call-out culture.
I like to lovingly call out my clients and lovingly support them and be like, listen, this is what I'm observing. How was it happening for you? Because a lot of the time we can't see past our own bullshit. A lot of the time we cannot see what we're actually doing. That is sabotaging us. And even if we think we are okay, because that's the ego swooping in and saying, you know what? I don't need this mindset, coach. I already have myself on lock. I'm already good.
But Oh my God, you have no idea how many people have been on calls with me. Have literally booked a clarity call or sales call or whatever. But then say I'm good with all the mindset stuff. Then why the fuck did you book this call? And usually, it's because of mindset shit. But the ego wants to tell us that we know how to handle our own stuff, the ego, and I mean society as well. Society tells us that if you seek help, there's something wrong with you.
The law of correspondence, which is a universal law, really mandates that the energy that you are going to put out is what you're going to get. So if you are late to coaching calls, if you don't respect your coach's boundaries, et cetera. However you do one thing is the way that you're going to do everything. And that's why it's so important to be in integrity with yourself. So when it comes to this half-ass energy, if you are putting out the energy of "this isn't going to work out and I'm going to get ready for when it doesn't". And that is what you're putting out. And that's usually what you're prepared for and what you're looking for. This is something that's so natural to us because as a very primal brain, that very lizard-like part of our brain, which is still so primal, living in the caveman days, we are programmed to look for danger.
And if we don't look for danger, we're afraid that we're vulnerable and that we're going to get hurt. And that's why a lot of the time you are thinking of worst-case scenario, you're thinking about, okay, well, if this doesn't happen for me, I have to think about the future and how I can continue to be protected. So therefore I'm going to worry or having anxiety about something. So at least I am focusing on it. So I don't get hurt. Essentially at the end of the day, we're all trying to not hurt our own feelings. We're all trying to do the best that we can to avoid feeling bad or to avoid something that we would see as catastrophic.
There are so many exercises, one that's particularly coming to mind is specifically one that Julia and I got from one of our coaches. You draw a tree and you draw the branches and you basically write on each of the branches, what you would be able to rely on if something didn't go the way you wanted it to.
One client that Julia and I had wanted to leave her job but she was so worried about her mortgage and her car and all that shit. We did this tree in terms of these are all the things that are going to catch you or that could happen, or that could support you before you ended up homeless on the street. And there are actually so many things that we do this with, in terms of thinking that we're immediately going to be homeless on the street. If a launch doesn't go the way that we want it to, you may not consciously be thinking I'm going to be homeless on the street, but that's where your brain goes. Your brain goes to that worst-case scenario without you even realizing it within the span of 2.3 seconds because that is what it's programmed to do.
And the reason why I call this half-ass energy is when you start to put that out, especially when it comes to your business, you're making decisions from a place of, if this works out, instead of this is going to work out no matter what.
I was supporting a client through Voxer. And one of the things that I was saying to her was a lot of the energy around what she was talking about was all about how well, if this package doesn't work out or if this program doesn't go the way that I want it to, then I'm just going to do this. Or I'm just going to do that. She was putting a lot of energy into if this is going to work out, instead of the fact that it was going to work out and she was just going to move her decisions around it until it works out.
I have always come from a place of, I am going to keep doing this until it fucking works out. No matter what it is, no matter what happens, I always have a really positive outlook on whatever it is, whether that's a launch or whether that's a program that I'm selling, or whether it's a course that I'm selling whatever. There is no such thing as worst-case scenario for me because I don't even entertain it.
I have a positive expectancy about what is going to work out. And if I do that, that is where my energy is pointed towards. It's pointing towards when this works out, it's pointing towards when I am going to land this client or when I'm going to do this. And when I'm going to do that, any type of failure is just a redirection. The important thing is that we're not focusing on the failure.
We have to actively retrain our brains to focus on when this works out because that energy is going to be put into creating more opportunities for you to take action on. That type of energy encourages more inspired thought for you to think about all the ways in which things could work out.
One of the greatest exercises that I love doing, and that I also tell my clients to do while they're launching is to write out 30 to 50 things that are so great about their program or so many amazing things that they can think of happening. We are so used to thinking when this doesn't work out, or if this doesn't work out, that it almost becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy when you are focused on if this doesn't work out that worst-case scenario, which honestly if you think about like your parents or think about anyone in your life, we are always preparing for the worst.
Confirmation bias here people, when you are looking for something, you are going to find that something, cause that's what you're looking for. And instead, we want to flip the script on ourselves and we want to think when this works out when this turns out exactly how I want it to what are all the ways in which this could go, right? What amazing things could come because of this.
This or something better is one of my favourite affirmations because whatever I want to achieve is going to be amazing. But if something better comes along, I'm not going to reject it. I'm going to be open to the possibilities and the opportunities that may come my way. But I can't do that if I am focusing my brain and that reticular activating system that we've talked about before, whatever you put your attention on is what is going to be in front of your face.
So instead I'm focused on the good possibilities and the good outcomes, instead of thinking about the bad ones. And this doesn't mean that you can't be prepared. This doesn't mean that you can't have thoughts about if this doesn't work out the way I want it to, especially when it comes to a launch, if it doesn't turn out the way that you want it to, that is fine. You can always redirect your efforts. You can always rectify it. It's not the end of the world, but having this type of more positive energy will allow you to have the motivation to move forward, to be able to see yourself in a more resilient light to keep going. Because instead, if you're thinking about all the things that could go wrong, and when you get to the end of your launch and it didn't go the way you want it to, that can really make you feel like what you're doing isn't what you're supposed to be doing. That you're not on the right path. And then you may end up taking actions that are, self-sabotaging like not showing up or deciding to quit your business or what have you.
So let's not do with this half-ass energy anymore. Let's go forward and retrain our brains in order to see the good and see the possibilities for whatever outcome you're desiring and see how different everything looks.
I want you to think of this as planting a flower. So when you plant something, you are certain that it's going to bloom. There is no thought in your mind, it's kind of like the sun will come up tomorrow. You are certain that the sun is going to come up tomorrow and that's how certain you need to be about your success. So when you are planting a flower, you know it's going to bloom. So you are patient, you know it's going to bloom. So you give it everything It needs to thrive, to succeed. You're not sitting there thinking, okay flower, I think you're going to going to bloom, but if you're not, then we're going to have to plant another Bush or we're going to have to do this, or I'm just going to rip you out of the ground. And we're just going to quit. You're not thinking that, your patient, you're expecting the best and you give it everything it needs to bloom. And then it does. And even if it takes some time, even if it doesn't seem like it's going to work out exactly the way you want it to focus on the fact that your success is inevitable, that whatever you do is just feeding that flower in order to bloom. And it will bloom in its own divine timing.
Talking badly to it or trying to do worst-case scenarios or having anxiety or worrying about it, isn't going to make it bloom any faster. It's not going to make things happen any faster. And it's not going to encourage you to continue nurturing this flower. It's just going to make things worse. Bring down your vibe, make you feel like you're not on the right path, et cetera. So whenever you're thinking about an outcome that you want to create or want to manifest or whatever, and your brain immediately wants to go to self-sabotaging/worst-case scenario mode. Remember that what if I expected the best? What if I, I saw all the opportunities around me to make this the best program ever the best launch ever and see how different your energy is around positive expectancy instead of hoping for the worst or thinking that the worst is going to happen.
And that's all she wrote kids. So I hope you guys have a wonderful, wonderful day. Remember that you can get 15% off the, from imposter to empowered course with the coupon code FITEPODCAST at the link in my show notes. And I hope you guys have a wonderful day. Talk to you later.
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