𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗻?
They all become the #WorthyWoman version of themselves, over and over again, to achieve the next goal and the next goal and the next goal.
They have habits and rituals that they stick to.
They actively work on changing the negative voice inside their head to one of empowerment.
They surround themselves with people who get it.
They are always embodying and acting from the highest version of themselves.
These are money-making activities
Your identity, your thoughts, your beliefs - they’re influencing the way you see your business, which affects your behaviour and creates your results.
If your thoughts were a cake, what would the result be when you took it out of the oven?
Your childhood unicorn birthday cake (𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘵’𝘥 𝘣𝘦, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦)?
Or is it lopsided, messy, and not exactly what you were going for (𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘷𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘪𝘵’𝘭𝘭 𝘥𝘰 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘯𝘰𝘸)?
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞.
We live in a world of the “just fucking do it” and the “you get what you work for” mentality. Discipline was seen as authoritative, that there was a “right” or “wrong” way to be.
You were taught that in order to get the results you wanted, you had to do things you didn’t want to do, but that you were “supposed” to do.
Does the phrase, “You can’t just do anything you want” ring a bell?
This particular story was one that I had to rewrite for myself.
The story that told me I couldn’t have fun and make money. That it had to be hard. That resting in bed all weekend was bad. That I had to be working on my business 8 hours a day to be successful. That swearing on the internet would make people not like me. That it was rude to talk about how much money I’ve made.
It all stemmed from punishing myself and making myself feel bad for being the...
Have you ever heard/gotten results for yourself & your clients and still felt like a fraud?
I have to ask - are you fully showing up as yourself?
𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞-𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬-𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧-𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐲𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫. You don’t feel good enough or capable enough, so you mould your personality, your actions, your services & prices, and your IG stories to please the masses, hoping not to be outed or criticized.
You’ve gotten so used to 𝘢𝘷𝘰𝘪𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 - judgement or criticism or feeling bad, that you present a version of yourself that is not authentic. Because while you’re posting that you’re a bad bitch, you feel like a fraud, think no one cares what you have to say, and that what you’re doing isn’t “working”.
So what do you think will happen when you start to see success? That “fake it til you make it” attitude will become even more anxiousness, worry, and lack of transparency/authenticity - because you believe that...
I recently had a client ask how she could change the habit of sleeping in, in order to become her highest self.
Instead of giving her tips like creating an evening routine so you go to bed earlier, listening to subliminals while you sleep, rewarding yourself for waking up early - I asked her what the big fucking deal was with sleeping in.
I encouraged her to ask herself what she was making it mean that she was sleeping in. 𝘏𝘪𝘯𝘵: Society tells us that sleeping in is lazy. But is that objectively true?
𝘏𝘪𝘯𝘵: No. Lol
We realized that she actually was a night owl, and was just shaming herself for not doing her work earlier in the day - even though she got plenty of work done when she slept in and worked in the afternoon/evening.
My question to her, and to you, is the same.
𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐟𝐮𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟?
Your problem is that you’re living under the But’s - But if I let myself sleep in, I won’t get any work done. But I’ve never had that kind of...
1 You don’t 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 want what you say you want.
You say you want 10 clients, but do you actually want 10 clients? Subconsciously, you could be resisting your goal because you know you don’t have the time or the resources.
Or maybe you don’t feel good enough, so even though you say you want clients, you actually don’t know what you’d even do with them if you did have clients.
2 You don’t feel worthy of what you want.
You have a goal to make $100K in your business this year - and even though so many people in this space have done that, you don’t think that you can achieve that based on what you think & feel about yourself.
3 You subconsciously think the thing you want will make you uncomfortable or it will be difficult.
And then if you have to be uncomfortable or the tasks to get to your goal are perceived as “difficult”, you’re afraid that those negative feelings will lead you down the shame spiral or make you feel bad, so...
𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐤𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐦.
It’s not something you do when you’re spiralling out of control.
It’s not a trendy thing because everyone else is doing it.
It’s not a one-way ticket to success because you see all the IG guru’s doing it.
It’s a 𝘥𝘢𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦.
It’s an 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵.
It’s more than just journaling and lighting some candles.
It’s acknowledging the painful shit that comes up.
It’s choosing the better thought, over and over again.
It’s knowing that things are going to work out, even when it looks like they won’t.
It’s feeling good and calm and flowy, and still doing your morning routine because you know that it’s what keeps you feeling good and calm and flowy.
It’s feeling safe in your body and safe in your business - and knowing that it takes the 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 to do this.
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You’ve always felt 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨.
Your opinions didn’t feel legitimate until they were validated by someone else.
Your ideas were kept secret because you thought they were stupid.
Your feelings felt unwarranted because you thought you had “no right” to feel that way.
You’re always looking for the right thing → the right decision, the right path, the right message.
Did it ever occur to you that the answer is to fully fucking accept yourself for who you are and then go from there?
The problem isn’t that you’re wrong. The problem is you’re making everything about you 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮.
You’re allowed to be here.
You’re allowed to take up space.
You’re allowed to have your juicy, exciting ideas.
You created your business to break free of the very thing you’re letting stand in your way - an employee mindset that follows the rules, constantly looks for guidance & validation, and believes that everything is...
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡.
Why you should hold back, and play small.
Why someone wouldn’t want to buy from you.
𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭.
Because this is the meaning you’re giving your story. And because you whole-heartedly believe this, you hide. You don’t talk about your services how you wish you could. You don’t have boundaries with yourself or your audience/clients.
Whereas someone with the exact same story as you, could be using it as her hero story. As to WHY she’s good enough. As to why someone would want to buy from her, because she’s unapologetically herself and embraces the parts of her that she knows other people can relate to.
And she’d be right, too. Because she’s choosing for this story to empower her, instead of letting it keep her small.
This is why 𝐧𝐞𝐮𝐫𝐨-𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐦𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 (𝐍𝐋𝐏) is so powerful. NLP allows us to access those subconscious stories and...
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐢𝐭, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐬𝐡.
You’re listening to your inner imposter and telling yourself that you’re not ready.
You’re thinking that once you get:
That next client that validates how great you are
That next certification
That next big number of Instagram followers
You can finally start 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 successful.
All the while, there is someone out there who truly needs what you have to offer - and you’re denying them of that, all because your 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘮𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.
But if you’re really certain about what you want, you have to do it scared.
You have to get on the calls, make the sales pitch, put out the content - even when it scares you. Even when it’s tiring. Even when you think no one is watching.
So yeah, maybe you’re afraid that taking the risk or going after the thing is going to cost you.
What’s it costing you to 𝘯𝘰𝘵?
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For today's episode, we have an empowering sleep hypnosis. So I just want to remind everybody if you are operating any heavy machinery, if you are looking after any small children, if you are doing anything of the store that requires you to be awake, please do not listen to this until you are able to lie down, relax, and go to sleep.
Because a lot of people doze off during this hypnosis because it's a sleep hypnosis. So I wanted to include this empowering sleep hypnosis. I've included a morning meditation in the podcast before, and I thought that this would be a really cool pairing because when we have limiting beliefs, we are consciously thinking them. So to change them consciously is very difficult because we've spent years and years and years thinking these same negative thoughts about ourselves. And when that happens, we are creating neural pathways in our mind. And...