𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞.

We live in a world of the “just fucking do it” and the “you get what you work for” mentality. Discipline was seen as authoritative, that there was a “right” or “wrong” way to be.

You were taught that in order to get the results you wanted, you had to do things you didn’t want to do, but that you were “supposed” to do.

Does the phrase, “You can’t just do anything you want” ring a bell?

This particular story was one that I had to rewrite for myself.

The story that told me I couldn’t have fun and make money. That it had to be hard. That resting in bed all weekend was bad. That I had to be working on my business 8 hours a day to be successful. That swearing on the internet would make people not like me. That it was rude to talk about how much money I’ve made.

It all stemmed from punishing myself and making myself feel bad for being the...

If you would have asked me a year ago to crack open a notebook and start writing, I’d tell you that my hand gets sore after two minutes and that my writing is so bad, I can’t even read it sometimes (I did not get the girly writing gene). Journaling was something I did as a kid, and I distinctly remember keeping one on the first computer I ever had – I would talk about my day at school and how I was feeling, and at the end I would put an emotion as to how I feel that day was overall. Snaps for school-aged Jillian.

But as I became older and the digital age became more and more prominent, I wrote down my feelings less and less. We became consumed with things like social media, television, and other distractions that kept us occupied. This meant less time to think and ponder our thoughts. When I became a coach, I would see so many of my mentors in the entrepreneurial community talk about how beneficial journaling was; but still, I never jumped on the bandwagon.

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