You Were Taught That Being Mean to Yourself Was Effective

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞.⁣

We live in a world of the “just fucking do it” and the “you get what you work for” mentality. Discipline was seen as authoritative, that there was a “right” or “wrong” way to be.⁣

You were taught that in order to get the results you wanted, you had to do things you didn’t want to do, but that you were “supposed” to do.⁣

Does the phrase, “You can’t just do anything you want” ring a bell?⁣

This particular story was one that I had to rewrite for myself.

The story that told me I couldn’t have fun and make money. That it had to be hard. That resting in bed all weekend was bad. That I had to be working on my business 8 hours a day to be successful. That swearing on the internet would make people not like me. That it was rude to talk about how much money I’ve made.⁣

It all stemmed from punishing myself and making myself feel bad for being the way that I was.

And this made me think, “𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘺𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦, 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦, 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩𝘺”.⁣

But the months that I make myself a priority, the months I make it a point to love myself and everything I was doing online, the months that I cultivate thoughts of “everything I’m doing is AMAZING and WORKING and my audience is OBSESSED with it”.....those months are IT.⁣

It’s time to drop the bullshit story that you can’t get sh*t done when you’re nice to yourself.

Nice doesn’t mean lack of productivity, nice doesn’t mean lazy, nice doesn’t mean ineffective.⁣

When your content, your services, your work is built on a foundation of radical self-love and radical self-trust, you allow yourself to take full responsibility for your results.

And then imagine what you could create then??!!⁣

 

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