Belief 𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲 yields results.
A study was done on a first grade classroom and their teacher. At the beginning of the year, the teacher was told that all of the students were tested, and that 5 of the kids were gifted. At the end of the year, the students were tested again, and those same 5 children had exceptional results.
But the teacher was only 𝘵𝘰𝘭𝘥 that those 5 children tested as gifted in the beginning of the year - they actually tested normal. HOWEVER, at the end of the year, those 5 children actually 𝘥𝘪𝘥 test as gifted.
Why? Because the teacher 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗱 that those 5 children were gifted. She believed in them and treated them as gifted, which yielded high-performing results.
𝗕𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁.
Belief in who you are, what you sell, and who you help. Belief that it’s working. Belief that you’re on the track. Belief that you’re already worthy, and the rest will come.
𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵 happens between knowing you’re worthy, and the manifestation, the clients,...
This year, on my 29th birthday, my high school sweetheart proposed to me and asked me to be his wife! We’re so excited.
And you should know, I’ve waited foreverrrrr for this moment - we were 15 when we started dating. And about 5 years ago, I really started to wonder when the ring was coming.
It became a running joke in my family (Dustin was super happy about that ), and I would think constantly about what it would be like once we were engaged and could plan our wedding.
I always knew the ring was coming, even when it wasn’t a physical manifestation yet. And when a couple years went by and I saw everyone else getting engaged, married, having kids (𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘰𝘸𝘯𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦!), I started to wonder when it would happen for me.
𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐭 𝐝𝐢𝐝! And every little thing over the past 14 years didn’t matter anymore.
Your business is this way, too.
Every investment you’ve made, every task you’ve completed, every late night you’ve spent...
The reason why it takes time to get to your next level is NOT because “it just takes time”.
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐥.
You see your success as a flight of stairs that you’re climbing - it all feels very restricted, rigid, and linear.
But it doesn’t have to be this hard. It doesn’t have to take such a long time.
Every time you uncover another layer of why you feel unworthy, you remove a heavy brick from the wall of your unworthiness. You acknowledge that part of you, validate that part of you, and release - and you give yourself permission to level up.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐜𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭. And then your second client. And then your first $5K month, and then your first $10K month.
𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭, 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘺𝘦𝘵.
𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞...
𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐤𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐦.
It’s not something you do when you’re spiralling out of control.
It’s not a trendy thing because everyone else is doing it.
It’s not a one-way ticket to success because you see all the IG guru’s doing it.
It’s a 𝘥𝘢𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦.
It’s an 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵.
It’s more than just journaling and lighting some candles.
It’s acknowledging the painful shit that comes up.
It’s choosing the better thought, over and over again.
It’s knowing that things are going to work out, even when it looks like they won’t.
It’s feeling good and calm and flowy, and still doing your morning routine because you know that it’s what keeps you feeling good and calm and flowy.
It’s feeling safe in your body and safe in your business - and knowing that it takes the 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 to do this.
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You’ve always felt 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨.
Your opinions didn’t feel legitimate until they were validated by someone else.
Your ideas were kept secret because you thought they were stupid.
Your feelings felt unwarranted because you thought you had “no right” to feel that way.
You’re always looking for the right thing → the right decision, the right path, the right message.
Did it ever occur to you that the answer is to fully fucking accept yourself for who you are and then go from there?
The problem isn’t that you’re wrong. The problem is you’re making everything about you 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮.
You’re allowed to be here.
You’re allowed to take up space.
You’re allowed to have your juicy, exciting ideas.
You created your business to break free of the very thing you’re letting stand in your way - an employee mindset that follows the rules, constantly looks for guidance & validation, and believes that everything is...
When I’ve asked more seasoned entrepreneurs what they wish they focused on more in the beginning of their business, they alllll told me - 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭.
Because, it all comes down to the beliefs you hold about yourself, the world, money, and making money, honey.
And it all comes down to the thoughts you have, how you respond to those thoughts, and then the stories you allow your thoughts to tell you.
When you 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 focus on mindset early on:
you’ll create limitations around what you can & cannot do
your strategy will fall flat because there’s no belief or energy in the execution
you’ll take every rejection personally
you’ll spiral and then disappear, lacking consistency
When you 𝘥𝘰 focus on mindset early on, you’ll:
break through limitations because you know everything can be figured out
rebound from setbacks faster
maintain consistency because you trust yourself & your path
There’s lots of ways you can...
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡.
Why you should hold back, and play small.
Why someone wouldn’t want to buy from you.
𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭.
Because this is the meaning you’re giving your story. And because you whole-heartedly believe this, you hide. You don’t talk about your services how you wish you could. You don’t have boundaries with yourself or your audience/clients.
Whereas someone with the exact same story as you, could be using it as her hero story. As to WHY she’s good enough. As to why someone would want to buy from her, because she’s unapologetically herself and embraces the parts of her that she knows other people can relate to.
And she’d be right, too. Because she’s choosing for this story to empower her, instead of letting it keep her small.
This is why 𝐧𝐞𝐮𝐫𝐨-𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐦𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 (𝐍𝐋𝐏) is so powerful. NLP allows us to access those subconscious stories and...
Long story short, this is my hot take:
And here’s why - money doesn’t magically change the course of your thoughts.
Let’s say that you think you feel like a fraud because you can’t book a client. You think to yourself….
I’m not good enough.
It seems like I don’t know what I’m doing.
But then yay, you sign a client! Smooth sailing now, right?!
Until the initial excitement wears off, and you’re thinking about your first call or your first project with your new client. You suddenly start to have the same thoughts, because what if you do a job and they don’t like it? What if you’re on the call with them and you don’t know what to say?
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟, 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 - and beliefs cannot instantly disappear simply from receiving a couple of PayPal notifications
If you feel like an imposter and think you’ll be cured by...
Listen to this episode on the From Imposter to Empowered podcast:
Today's episode is going to be a really great tool for you to use in order for you to get calm and get grounded, especially when you're in that inner imposter cycle. And that cycle can look a little bit like negative thoughts, which translate into feelings of unworthiness, which then contribute to your limiting beliefs and then turn into self-sabotage...and then it cycles back to those negative thoughts.
So let's look through a cycle of imposter syndrome. Let’s say you're starting to have negative thoughts because you're looking at somebody else's story and you're thinking, “Wow, this coach does the same thing as me and she's already hitting 10K months.”
Then you start feeling those feelings of unworthiness: “Why haven't I hit 10 K months? Why aren't I good enough to be able to be a coach in this field and hit 10K...