Dropping the Scarcity Mentality and Operating Out of Desire

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This podcast episode was inspired by a conversation with a 1:1 client that I thought was so good and juicy, you guys needed to hear this message, too.

 

So she dropped into What’s App one day, and was talking about her attraction marketing strategy and how she feels like her desperate or lack mentality is not going to attract clients to her. And when we pulled the threads at her lack and scarcity mentality, what we found was so interesting to me - but definitely not uncommon. You see, my client is as safe as can be. She has the support she needs, she has the money she needs, her bills are paid, she has a home, she’s got clients in her business - she is safe. But despite being safe with her money, she has this feeling of desperation, lack, and scarcity that she is creating through her thoughts of needing more clients, more success, just more in general when it comes to her...

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The One Thought You Need to Feel Like an Expert

 

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Here’s one thought you need to have, that will honestly make you thousands of dollars as a coach - and in any industry:

 

 “Nobody can do it like me.”

 

And the reason why you may not be making thousands of dollars is because you don’t believe this thought. Believing that nobody can do it like you would mean that you’d have to hold what you know in high regard. To believe that you’re an expert, and worthy of being respected and recognized as one.

 

Here’s the easiest way you can begin to bridge the gap between not thinking this and believing with your whole heart - there is truly nobody in this world with your energetic blueprint.

 

With your fingerprint, even. You have your own sacred, unique identity in this world. Nobody else has had the exact same experiences, plus your education, plus your history, plus your...

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Your Block with Receiving is Because You Think You Don't Deserve Good Things

I used to nod my head religiously when someone would talk about self-care, but I low-key thought it was unnecessary.

When my coaches said, “You deserve to take a break”, I would agree but be thinking in the back of my mind “Pfft, I don’t have time for that.”

When something went wrong in my business or someone said no, I’d latch onto my negative thoughts and throw myself a pity party, saying shit like “Why can’t it happen for 𝘮𝘦?!?”

It was because I believed I wasn’t worthy of receiving.

I have always rejected compliments.
If someone did something for me, I had the immediate urge to repay them.
I couldn’t take credit for my work or be praised for it (𝘤𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘤 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘺𝘯𝘥𝘳𝘰𝘮𝘦).

I was also conditioned to believe that women that did things for themselves were selfish - so any type of self-care or self-indulgence I participated in was paired with a thick layer of guilt, meaning I could never enjoy anything.

This all came from a...

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Something That My Best Mentors & My Best Clients All Have In Common

𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗻?

They all become the #WorthyWoman version of themselves, over and over again, to achieve the next goal and the next goal and the next goal.

They have habits and rituals that they stick to.
They actively work on changing the negative voice inside their head to one of empowerment.
They surround themselves with people who get it.
They are always embodying and acting from the highest version of themselves.

These are money-making activities

Your identity, your thoughts, your beliefs - they’re influencing the way you see your business, which affects your behaviour and creates your results.

If your thoughts were a cake, what would the result be when you took it out of the oven?


Your childhood unicorn birthday cake (𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘵’𝘥 𝘣𝘦, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦)?


Or is it lopsided, messy, and not exactly what you were going for (𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘷𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘪𝘵’𝘭𝘭 𝘥𝘰 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘯𝘰𝘸)?

𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲...

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Belief Alone Yields Results

Belief 𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲 yields results.

A study was done on a first grade classroom and their teacher. At the beginning of the year, the teacher was told that all of the students were tested, and that 5 of the kids were gifted. At the end of the year, the students were tested again, and those same 5 children had exceptional results.

But the teacher was only 𝘵𝘰𝘭𝘥 that those 5 children tested as gifted in the beginning of the year - they actually tested normal. HOWEVER, at the end of the year, those 5 children actually 𝘥𝘪𝘥 test as gifted.

Why? Because the teacher 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗱 that those 5 children were gifted. She believed in them and treated them as gifted, which yielded high-performing results.

𝗕𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁.

Belief in who you are, what you sell, and who you help. Belief that it’s working. Belief that you’re on the track. Belief that you’re already worthy, and the rest will come.

𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵 happens between knowing you’re worthy, and the manifestation, the clients,...

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Are You Fully Showing Up As Yourself?

Have you ever heard/gotten results for yourself & your clients and still felt like a fraud?

I have to ask - are you fully showing up as yourself?

𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞-𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬-𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧-𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐲𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫. You don’t feel good enough or capable enough, so you mould your personality, your actions, your services & prices, and your IG stories to please the masses, hoping not to be outed or criticized.

You’ve gotten so used to 𝘢𝘷𝘰𝘪𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 - judgement or criticism or feeling bad, that you present a version of yourself that is not authentic. Because while you’re posting that you’re a bad bitch, you feel like a fraud, think no one cares what you have to say, and that what you’re doing isn’t “working”.

So what do you think will happen when you start to see success? That “fake it til you make it” attitude will become even more anxiousness, worry, and lack of transparency/authenticity - because you believe that...

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The Sneakiest Way That Imposter Syndrome Fucks You Up

When you don’t feel good enough, smart enough, or competent enough, you rely on other people to show you the way and help make your decisions - like a coach, a mentor, a parent, etc.

And because you’re constantly looking to others for guidance, when it comes time to make a decision for yourself….you freeze up. You feel incapable.

You panic, and then you sit in analysis paralysis, hoping that the perfect decision will just come to you.

You think you’re learning the ropes, but what you’re really learning is not to trust yourself.

Every decision you make sets a path into motion:

Maybe you got a degree that you don’t use now, but you met the love of your life in third year.
Maybe you were in a mastermind where you were disappointed with the content, but you learned what you didn’t want in a coach and it led you to hire the right one next time.
Maybe you bombed a sales call or got rejected a bunch of times, but it led you to self-awareness &...

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Do You Think That Your Biggest Insecurity Is Why You're Not Good Enough?

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡.

Why you should hold back, and play small.

Why someone wouldn’t want to buy from you.

𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭.

Because this is the meaning you’re giving your story. And because you whole-heartedly believe this, you hide. You don’t talk about your services how you wish you could. You don’t have boundaries with yourself or your audience/clients.

Whereas someone with the exact same story as you, could be using it as her hero story. As to WHY she’s good enough. As to why someone would want to buy from her, because she’s unapologetically herself and embraces the parts of her that she knows other people can relate to.

And she’d be right, too. Because she’s choosing for this story to empower her, instead of letting it keep her small.

This is why 𝐧𝐞𝐮𝐫𝐨-𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐦𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 (𝐍𝐋𝐏) is so powerful. NLP allows us to access those subconscious stories and...

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Why You Should Name Your Inner Imposter | Imposter Syndrome

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So today's episode is going to be quite short, but it came up for me, especially because in this time in my life. I have found that balancing a full time job and being an entrepreneur on the side is very challenging. We're just going to jump right into it by the way, getting deep already. What came up for me was that I am constantly having to be productive and this is also related to some anxiety issues that I have in terms of feeling like my value in my worthiness is based on my doing.

 

I spend very little time just being, relaxing and just being okay with wherever I am, because I always feel like there's a future goal to achieve, or there's some world of success that I am not a part of yet, and that I just need to work as hard as I can to get to that place.. But that place doesn't exist.

 

I really wanted to talk about being okay with being where you're at and...

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