Dropping the Scarcity Mentality and Operating Out of Desire
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This podcast episode was inspired by a conversation with a 1:1 client that I thought was so good and juicy, you guys needed to hear this message, too.
So she dropped into What’s App one day, and was talking about her attraction marketing strategy and how she feels like her desperate or lack mentality is not going to attract clients to her. And when we pulled the threads at her lack and scarcity mentality, what we found was so interesting to me - but definitely not uncommon. You see, my client is as safe as can be. She has the support she needs, she has the money she needs, her bills are paid, she has a home, she’s got clients in her business - she is safe. But despite being safe with her money, she has this feeling of desperation, lack, and scarcity that she is creating through her thoughts of needing more clients, more success, just more in general when it comes to her...
Your Block with Receiving is Because You Think You Don't Deserve Good Things
I used to nod my head religiously when someone would talk about self-care, but I low-key thought it was unnecessary.
When my coaches said, “You deserve to take a break”, I would agree but be thinking in the back of my mind “Pfft, I don’t have time for that.”
When something went wrong in my business or someone said no, I’d latch onto my negative thoughts and throw myself a pity party, saying shit like “Why can’t it happen for 𝘮𝘦?!?”
It was because I believed I wasn’t worthy of receiving.
I have always rejected compliments.
If someone did something for me, I had the immediate urge to repay them.
I couldn’t take credit for my work or be praised for it (𝘤𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘤 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘺𝘯𝘥𝘳𝘰𝘮𝘦).
I was also conditioned to believe that women that did things for themselves were selfish - so any type of self-care or self-indulgence I participated in was paired with a thick layer of guilt, meaning I could never enjoy anything.
This all came from a...
Your Personal Experience Makes You An Expert
I call myself an Imposter Syndrome Expert, but not 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 because I have a psychology-educated background and experience with people who struggle with it.
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐈 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐭 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡, that I know firsthand how feeling like an imposter can affect every part of your life.
Each step towards my progress was made anxiously and with negative expectation, waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Waiting for someone to look at me and go, “You don’t belong here”.
Waiting for this arbitrary “moment” where I would be called out and lose everything.
My boundaries were non-existent.
I was judgemental of others to protect myself.
I worried about my clients’ results because I thought it meant something about me.
I was always feeling scarce even when I started to make money, because I worried it would just 𝘨𝘰 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘺 one day.
The way to release these scarce thoughts & feelings so your business doesn’t feel like an emotional energy vacuum?
𝐃𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞...
3 Ways You Can Start Tapping Into Your Highest Self
Do you roll your eyes when your coach tells you to access your higher self?
Maybe visualization doesn’t work for you
Maybe you have a hard time feeling the feels if you haven’t already accomplished your goal
So when someone tells you that how they’ve succeeded is by activating their highest self, you can’t help but dismiss that woo-woo bullshit and declare that it will never work for you.
Here's 3 ways you can actually start tapping into your highest self:
𝘎𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘢 𝘯𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯.
Identifying the traits, feelings, and characteristics of someone who has what you desire is easier if you don’t have to imagine it’s you and all of your contributing beliefs & stories.
𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘻𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦.
If there’s someone you admire that already has what you want, ain’t no shame in visualizing what they’re doing and how they may be feeling. In NLP this is called modeling, and is an effective way of replicating a...
Empowering Sleep Hypnosis
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For today's episode, we have an empowering sleep hypnosis. So I just want to remind everybody if you are operating any heavy machinery, if you are looking after any small children, if you are doing anything of the store that requires you to be awake, please do not listen to this until you are able to lie down, relax, and go to sleep.
Because a lot of people doze off during this hypnosis because it's a sleep hypnosis. So I wanted to include this empowering sleep hypnosis. I've included a morning meditation in the podcast before, and I thought that this would be a really cool pairing because when we have limiting beliefs, we are consciously thinking them. So to change them consciously is very difficult because we've spent years and years and years thinking these same negative thoughts about ourselves. And when that happens, we are creating neural pathways in our mind. And...
This Is Blocking Your Manifestations | Imposter Syndrome
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Hey, Hey, everybody Hugo and I just got home from an amazing walk and I had a thought, and I really wanted to share this with you. And I didn't have time to go to my laptop or whatever, but I really wanted to share, because I know that this will be a great podcast episode. And I encourage you, If you ever get a hit of inspired thoughts to write it down, to write it down or to speak it into existence or start taking action on it right away. Because those inspired actions come from when you are letting them happen. Come from when you aren't trying to overanalyze or overthink the situation. I think I've talked about this on a podcast episode before, but we have certain brainwaves and these brainwaves are actually either conducive or non conducive to our patterns of thought. So in high beta, we are thinking, thinking, thinking, we are analyzing, we are over analyzing. We are...
When You Feel Like You're Not Doing Enough | Imposter Syndrome
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Hey, Hey everybody. So I just want to celebrate something real quick. It's September 19th and I'm recording a couple of podcast episodes for next month for you guys. And I was checking out my QuickBooks and my business Jillian Parekh Coaching has hit a huge fucking milestone, and that is I have officially created a six figure business.
So I don't really count 2018 because I literally made $0. And it's not really on the books because I didn't exactly claim anything. I think I made like a hundred bucks, not even, but so I technically count 2019 as like the first real year in business. And last year I made $12,000. And at this point I have now made about $87,000 this year in 2020. So that means that I have hit six figures in my business in total, and I'm going to hit six figures in 2020 by the end of the year. And this feels really surreal to me. It also feels kind of...
What You Do Matters | Imposter Syndrome
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Hey, Hey everybody. So, today's podcast episode is about how your business is important and necessary. And that kind of imposter syndrome feeling that you may be getting from feeling like your work isn't necessary for the collective, especially if you're like an online coach or a virtual assistant or something like that.
I'm no stranger to the feeling of is my work really impacting people in a good way. Like what's, what's my work all coming to, you know what I mean? That, that weird kind of feeling of if our work is actually important to the world. So I hope you enjoy. Hello everybody thought I'd give you guys a little Monday pep talk. This is something that like, I think comes up in with basically every person that I coach and not even that, but it also comes up for me as well. And it's very unspoken. So you know how imposter syndrome is something that people don't always...
This is Why We Retrain the Brain | Imposter Syndrome
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You guys have heard me talk about belief bridging, about retrain your brain, changing your thoughts, but why are we doing all of this? Why are we reframing our thoughts? What is the benefit of making our thoughts more positive instead of leaning more into that negative way of thinking that some of us end up thinking like? And of course, when you're retraining your brain, you don't want to focus on the negative because when you do, you create negative emotion and you create situations in which you're just focusing on the negative, which doesn't attract good things it attracts bad things, the things that you don't want. Right?
But other than that very obvious reason, reframing allows you to open yourself up to opportunity instead of restriction. So you are training your brain to subconsciously look for the good, or look for the positive, or look for the lesson,...
Side Hustling to Six Figures | with Dielle Charon
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Hey, everybody. Welcome back to the podcast. Today, we have a very special guest, Dielle Charon. She is @diellecharon on Instagram.
Dielle is a sales expert, and she helps online coaches reach six figures using her proven strategies and formulas, and she has made over a hundred grand in eight months. And guys, she works full time like me. The reason why I even know Dielle is because Dielle was my very, very first coach. She was in my DMs in January 2019 when I was so nervous, like shitting my pants like I don't think I can invest. And she was like, "I know you can do it. I know that you can be successful." She was the very first coach that I ever worked with, and she allowed me to have my first launch ever that was super successful. I got four people into high ticket program, that I never could have imagined would even happen, and it was all because of Dielle.
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