This is Why We Retrain the Brain | Imposter Syndrome

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You guys have heard me talk about belief bridging, about retrain your brain, changing your thoughts, but why are we doing all of this? Why are we reframing our thoughts? What is the benefit of making our thoughts more positive instead of leaning more into that negative way of thinking that some of us end up thinking like? And of course, when you're retraining your brain, you don't want to focus on the negative because when you do, you create negative emotion and you create situations in which you're just focusing on the negative, which doesn't attract good things it attracts bad things, the things that you don't want. Right?


But other than that very obvious reason, reframing allows you to open yourself up to opportunity instead of restriction. So you are training your brain to subconsciously look for the good, or look for the positive, or look for the lesson, instead of thinking about, "This is how this is negatively impacting my life." Instead, thinking about, "Well, this is the way that it's positively impacting myself."


Something I do with my clients is the rejection template. And that has a component at the end if you've been rejected on a sales call or what have you, at the end of it, we talk about how. What is the lesson that I can glean from this experience? What is something that I can learn to allow me to move forward in a more positive and empowering way?


And the reason why this is so important is that this will allow you to have the motivation and the drive to keep going, instead of focusing on what went wrong or what's wrong with you, which is not empowering, it just brings you down. It makes you feel small. It doesn't empower you at all. So, reframing allows you instead to open yourself up to good things, to positive things, to the possibility, and helps you move forward in a more empowering way instead of restricting you, instead of making you feel small. As well, reframing employs actions instead of more negative thinking or inaction.


So, instead of being like, "Well, I guess I'm just a terrible coach." That doesn't really inspire any action. It doesn't really make you want to record a podcast episode or pitch somebody or talk to somebody in the DMs. Again, talking about the rejection template, I am doing a group program, which at this time of you listening to it, it's already been underway now for a month. So, there was a point where I had a day where like five people said no to my group program. And instead of getting down on myself and thinking, "Nobody wants this program." Instead of thinking that I thought, "This program just wasn't the right fit for this person at this time and that's okay."


And that allowed me to move forward with inspired action, seeing the possibilities, seeing the people that it actually is a good time for them. It allowed me to see them for what it is instead of focusing on myself and being like, meh. This program sucks. It's not good timing for this person, and that means that it's not good at all. And that's just not the case. If I allowed myself to get down on a couple of nos, then I wouldn't be able to rejoice and be excited about the yeses, because the yeses are what fucking matter.


The yeses are what is important. But if I let myself get so down about the nos, instead of empowering myself and saying, "Well, it's just not a good time for them. No, doesn't mean no forever. It just means no, right now." Then I'm going to take the action that is going to support a more positive outcome instead of looking internally and being like, "Wow, I guess I'm not good enough."


And again, reframing employs that action, that inspired action, instead of more negative thinking or self-sabotage or inaction, which inaction pretty much is self-sabotage. Getting in your head and convincing yourself that your thoughts are true. That you aren't good enough and that your program isn't good enough and blah, blah, blah, is going to mean that you're probably not going to take the right actions or the steps that you would take if you were more empowered if you were more excited about your service or your program. And that is why reframing is not just some, "Oh, let's just reframe our thoughts and we're going to feel so much better." Of course, there needs to be power and belief behind your reframe. So, that's why we do belief bridging.


So, instead of nobody wants to join my program, instead of, everybody in the world wants to join my program it's the best. You can say, "The right people are going to join at the right time." And that reframe allows me to relish in the fact that the right people are going to join and it is going to be a good fit. And that it's all going to happen for me in the timing that it's supposed to happen. It's not only trusting that I am capable and good enough and my work is worthy of compensation. But also trusting that there is a larger plan for me and my business, as long as I just trust and I'm patient and do the things that I need to do in order to take action on my goals.


So, if you have ever struggled with reframing and like, "Mm, I just don't think it's doing anything." It's probably because you don't have a ton of belief behind your reframe, which is fine. You can use a neutral statement to edge your way towards an even more empowering reframe. But essentially the reason why we reframe is for you to see the possibilities, for you to be thinking in a more positive light. Because remember, the brain thrives on negativity, it wants to be negative, it wants to be able to scan its environment for danger. And therefore, if you're just thinking positively and like, everything is great. It's like, "Oh no, now we're fucking vulnerable. And you're going to get eaten by a bear." But that's actually not real.


It's just your brain trying to keep you safe. So, reframing is really, really key in that, just like retraining your brain in order to see the good, and see the possibilities, and see how you can learn and grow, so you can have the drive, the energy, the motivation to move forward and continue to take that inspired action, and to also feel good and empowered within yourself. And that is why reframing is such a big key to retraining your brain.


It is not just thinking positively. It's not just, think good thoughts and good things will happen. It's genuinely changing the course of the way that your brain works. It's actually changing the way your brain functions, because once you actually start to actively reframe, it becomes second nature to think more empowering about yourself, to believe more in your capabilities and your resilience.


Reframing allows you to build up that resilience to even when crappy things happen, you're able to reframe them in a more positive and empowering way so you can move forward and do the things that you were meant to be doing.


So, I hope you guys love this little snippet of this episode. If you're curious about belief bridging and retraining your brain and doing all that stuff, don't forget the, From Imposter to Empowered Course allows you to do all of this for just $147. These are the strategies that I use with my clients. This allows my clients to make the money that they want to make. It allows them to overcome their inner imposter that's telling them that they can't do it and really changes their lives.



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