𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲.
You decide what you give meaning.
On the playground, I found out a boy in our class liked me. Another schoolmate turned to me and said, “Why would 𝘩𝘦 like 𝘺𝘰𝘶?”
I wondered what it could possibly be. My hair, my face, the clothes I wore? I settled on what made sense to me - the fact that I stuttered.
I decided that this boy wouldn’t like me if he got to know me, because then he’d realize that I stuttered, and that was the worst thing about me.
I carried this story with me everywhere I went. I grew up with this story.
It loomed over me like a dark cloud.
I made every no, every rejection, every side sneer, every negative interaction 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 that I was incapable, unworthy, unintelligent, unlovable - all because I was a person who stuttered.
You’re the same. You have something that you lean towards when you’re not getting your way. You have something that you’ve decided makes you unworthy, incapable, unintelligent,...
You’ve always felt 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨.
Your opinions didn’t feel legitimate until they were validated by someone else.
Your ideas were kept secret because you thought they were stupid.
Your feelings felt unwarranted because you thought you had “no right” to feel that way.
You’re always looking for the right thing → the right decision, the right path, the right message.
Did it ever occur to you that the answer is to fully fucking accept yourself for who you are and then go from there?
The problem isn’t that you’re wrong. The problem is you’re making everything about you 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮.
You’re allowed to be here.
You’re allowed to take up space.
You’re allowed to have your juicy, exciting ideas.
You created your business to break free of the very thing you’re letting stand in your way - an employee mindset that follows the rules, constantly looks for guidance & validation, and believes that everything is...
So I don't know about you, but I always get my best ideas while driving!
The other day while driving, I started thinking about being relatable and how I often share my real raw experiences with my audience.
So I never want to use really vague examples.
Whenever I'm talking about something, I use my own life and something that I've experienced and that I'm struggling with.
And even if I'm currently struggling with that, I'll be very open and transparent with my clients because I really believe that it is important and people really need to hear that they're not alone.
And that's because shame is our default setting! Shame is what we resort to because it was how we were raised.
A lot of this generation was raised on shame.
I think about the time where I went to the grocery store with my family when I was like 8 years old. And I stole like one of those tape gum things.
I took it out of my pocket and showed it to my sister once we got into the...
Listen to this episode on the From Imposter to Empowered podcast:
One of the ways Imposter Syndrome sabotages your business is by negatively affecting your motivation. You may feel this way because you’re insecure about your business, you sense that nobody wants your services, and you feel like no matter how much effort you put in, you’re not getting anything in return.
You push on thinking that your hard work is the only thing that determines your worth. If you happen to take a few days off it can create a feeling of being out of sorts because you start feeling insecure about yourself and you can’t pinpoint which direction you want to take your business in. That, in turn, can make you lose all motivation towards that particular project or trying to create new ideas. It can take the wind right out of your sail!
For example, let’s say you’re trying to come up with new content ideas for your Instagram, the...