I recently had a client ask how she could change the habit of sleeping in, in order to become her highest self.
Instead of giving her tips like creating an evening routine so you go to bed earlier, listening to subliminals while you sleep, rewarding yourself for waking up early - I asked her what the big fucking deal was with sleeping in.
I encouraged her to ask herself what she was making it mean that she was sleeping in. 𝘏𝘪𝘯𝘵: Society tells us that sleeping in is lazy. But is that objectively true?
𝘏𝘪𝘯𝘵: No. Lol
We realized that she actually was a night owl, and was just shaming herself for not doing her work earlier in the day - even though she got plenty of work done when she slept in and worked in the afternoon/evening.
My question to her, and to you, is the same.
𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐟𝐮𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟?
Your problem is that you’re living under the But’s - But if I let myself sleep in, I won’t get any work done. But I’ve never had that kind of...
This Is What I Call The Other Shoe Effect
When you’re subconsciously pushing away good-feeling experiences in your business because when you feel good, your internal alarm goes off, letting you know that something bad might happen.
So you subconsciously push away success or feeling good, because you’re worried that something bad has to happen as a result of your happiness.
This might look like - not celebrating after a good launch or signing a client, feeling the need to overwork and “do” more when things are feeling calm + easy, or spending more money than you’re making once you start hitting higher months!
It’s important to remember that your brain is always trying to keep you safe. It’s job is to scope out danger when there’s uncertainty or when your “guard is down”.
Work on proving old stories wrong, consistently grounding yourself and your body, and practicing better feeling thoughts that won’t take you down...
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲.
You decide what you give meaning.
On the playground, I found out a boy in our class liked me. Another schoolmate turned to me and said, “Why would 𝘩𝘦 like 𝘺𝘰𝘶?”
I wondered what it could possibly be. My hair, my face, the clothes I wore? I settled on what made sense to me - the fact that I stuttered.
I decided that this boy wouldn’t like me if he got to know me, because then he’d realize that I stuttered, and that was the worst thing about me.
I carried this story with me everywhere I went. I grew up with this story.
It loomed over me like a dark cloud.
I made every no, every rejection, every side sneer, every negative interaction 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 that I was incapable, unworthy, unintelligent, unlovable - all because I was a person who stuttered.
You’re the same. You have something that you lean towards when you’re not getting your way. You have something that you’ve decided makes you unworthy, incapable, unintelligent,...
𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜.
And it’s total bull shit.
Listen, it’s normal to feel jealous and a little competitive. That “grass is greener” type of stuff is inevitable.
But if the compulsion to compare is so often for you, that it’s getting in the way of running your business - the empathy I have for you won’t last long.
And that’s because you’re letting your ego 𝘸𝘪𝘯.
If you were to really put yourself out there and hear crickets, your ego would be bruised.
If you were to really not give a f*ck what others were doing or what they thought of you, you could be susceptible to their judgement or their rejection.
So it’s easier to compare, it’s easier to focus on what’s 𝘯𝘰𝘵 working for you and what 𝘪𝘴 working for them.
𝐑𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐚 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 - jealousy about what someone else is doing or what someone else has is your way of saying that you think they’re happy, and that’s what you want to...
Let’s say you’re a Mindset Coach who uses human design in their business.
If you grew up around people who used human design often and who thought running a coaching business from social media was the norm, you wouldn’t be constantly questioning if they think what you’re doing online is weird.
And that’s because your paradigm, which is defined as a pattern of being or a model, is different than what they’re used to.
And typically, people who aren’t committed to mindset work or personal development aren’t actively changing their paradigm.
There’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing, it’s just 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 from the paradigm that the people around you have used to.
When you’re around people who get what you’re doing, whether that’s in person or online, it’s less likely you’ll question if what you’re doing is 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 or 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨.
𝐑𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐦𝐞: The value of my services...
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