I recently hadย a client ask how she could change the habit of sleeping in, in order to become her highest self.โฃ
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Instead of giving her tips like creating an evening routine so you go to bed earlier, listening to subliminals while you sleep, rewarding yourself for waking up early - I asked her what the big fucking deal was with sleeping in.โฃ
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I encouraged her to ask herself what she was making it mean that she was sleeping in. ๐๐ช๐ฏ๐ต: Society tells us that sleeping in is lazy. But is that objectively true?
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We realized that she actually was a night owl, and was just shaming herself for not doing her work earlier in the day - even though she got plenty of work done when she slept in and worked in the afternoon/evening.โฃ
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My question to her, and to you, is the same.
๐ช๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ฉ๐ญ๐๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐? โฃ
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Your problem is that youโre living under the Butโs - But if I let myself sleep in, I wonโt get any work done. But Iโve never had that kind of luck before. But my ...
This Is What I Call The Other Shoe Effectย ๐
When youโre subconsciously pushing away good-feeling experiences in your business because when you feel good, your internal alarm goes off, letting you know that something bad might happen.
So you subconsciously push away success or feeling good, because youโre worried that something bad has to happen as a result of your happiness.
This might look like - not celebrating after a good launch or signing a client, feeling the need to overwork and โdoโ more when things are feeling calm + easy, or spending more money than youโre making once you start hitting higher months!
Itโs important to remember that your brain is always trying to keep you safe. Itโs job is to scope out danger when thereโs uncertainty or when your โguard is downโ.
Work on proving old stories wrong, consistently grounding yourself and your body, and practicing better feeling thoughts that wonโt take you down the shame spiral ๐ค
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๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ซ๐ฒ.โฃ
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You decide what you give meaning.โฃ
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On the playground, I found out a boy in our class liked me. Another schoolmate turned to me and said, โWhy would ๐ฉ๐ฆ like ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ?โโฃ
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I wondered what it could possibly be. My hair, my face, the clothes I wore? I settled on what made sense to me - the fact that I stuttered.
I decided that this boy wouldnโt like me if he got to know me, because then heโd realize that I stuttered, and that was the worst thing about me.โฃ
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I carried this story with me everywhere I went. I grew up with this story.
It loomed over me like a dark cloud.โฃ
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I made every no, every rejection, every side sneer, every negative interaction ๐ฆ๐๐๐ง that I was incapable, unworthy, unintelligent, unlovable - all because I was a person who stuttered.โฃ
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Youโre the same. You have something that you lean towards when youโre not getting your way. You have something that youโve decided makes you unworthy, incapable, unintelligent, unlovable.โฃ
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Your ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ is charged...
๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ง ๐๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ญ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐.โฃ
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And itโs total bull shit.โฃ
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Listen, itโs normal to feel jealous and a little competitive. That โgrass is greenerโ type of stuff is inevitable.โฃ
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But if the compulsion to compare is so often for you, that itโs getting in the way of running your business - the empathy I have for you wonโt last long.โฃ
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And thatโs because youโre letting your ego ๐ธ๐ช๐ฏ. โฃ
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If you were to really put yourself out there and hear crickets, your ego would be bruised.โฃ
If you were to really not give a f*ck what others were doing or what they thought of you, you could be susceptible to their judgement or their rejection.โฃ
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So itโs easier to compare, itโs easier to focus on whatโs ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต working for you and what ๐ช๐ด working for them.โฃ
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๐๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฒ ๐๐ซ๐๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ - jealousy about what someone else is doing or what someone else has is your way of saying that you think theyโre happy, and thatโs what you want to be.โฃ
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With your business, youโre seeing what someone else is doing...
Letโs say youโre a Mindset Coach who uses human design in their business.โฃ
โฃIf you grew up around people who used human design often and who thought running a coaching business from social media was the norm, you wouldnโt be constantly questioning if they think what youโre doing online is weird.โฃ
โฃAnd thatโs because your paradigm, which is defined as a pattern of being or a model, is different than what theyโre used to.
And typically, people who arenโt committed to mindset work or personal development arenโt actively changing their paradigm.โฃโฃย
Thereโs nothing wrong with what youโre doing, itโs just ๐ฅ๐ช๐ง๐ง๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต from the paradigm that the people around you have used to.โฃย
โฃWhen youโre around people who get what youโre doing, whether thatโs in person or online, itโs less likely youโll question if what youโre doing is ๐ณ๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ต or ๐ธ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐จ.โฃ
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โฃ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ญ ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ซ ๐ฆ๐: The value of my services doesnโt change based on whoโs looking at them.โฃ
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So, even if someone from high school is watching your ...
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