Your Personal Experience Makes You An Expert

I call myself an Imposter Syndrome Expert, but not ๐˜ซ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต because I have a psychology-educated background and experience with people who struggle with it.โฃ
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๐ˆ๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐›๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ˆ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ž๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐œ๐ก, that I know firsthand how feeling like an imposter can affect every part of your life.โฃ
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Each step towards my progress was made anxiously and with negative expectation, waiting for the other shoe to drop. โฃ
Waiting for someone to look at me and go, โ€œYou donโ€™t belong hereโ€. โฃ
Waiting for this arbitrary โ€œmomentโ€ where I would be called out and lose everything.โฃ
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My boundaries were non-existent.โฃ
I was judgemental of others to protect myself. โฃ
I worried about my clientsโ€™ results because I thought it meant something about me. โฃ
I was always feeling scarce even when I started to make money, because I worried it would just ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ข๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜บ one day.โฃ
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The way to release these scarce thoughts & feelings so your business doesnโ€™t feel like an emotional energy vacuum?โฃ
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๐ƒ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค. Uncover, release, and rewrite. Bl...

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Stop Treating Mindset Work Like a Checklist Item

๐’๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ž๐ญ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ž ๐š ๐œ๐ก๐ž๐œ๐ค๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ.โฃ
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Itโ€™s not something you do when youโ€™re spiralling out of control.โฃ
Itโ€™s not a trendy thing because everyone else is doing it.โฃ
Itโ€™s not a one-way ticket to success because you see all the IG guruโ€™s doing it.โฃ
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Itโ€™s a ๐˜ฅ๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ฆ.โฃ
Itโ€™s an ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต.โฃ
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Itโ€™s more than just journaling and lighting some candles.โฃ
Itโ€™s acknowledging the painful shit that comes up.โฃ
Itโ€™s choosing the better thought, over and over again.โฃ
Itโ€™s knowing that things are going to work out, even when it looks like they wonโ€™t.โฃ
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Itโ€™s feeling good and calm and flowy, and still doing your morning routine because you know that itโ€™s what keeps you feeling good and calm and flowy.โฃ
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Itโ€™s feeling safe in your body and safe in your business - and knowing that it takes the ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค to do this.โฃ

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Feeling Like You Are Always Wrong?

Youโ€™ve always felt ๐˜ธ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ.โฃ
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Your opinions didnโ€™t feel legitimate until they were validated by someone else.โฃ
Your ideas were kept secret because you thought they were stupid.โฃ
Your feelings felt unwarranted because you thought you had โ€œno rightโ€ to feel that way.โฃ
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Youโ€™re always looking for the right thing โ†’ the right decision, the right path, the right message.โฃ
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Did it ever occur to you that the answer is to fully fucking accept yourself for who you are and then go from there?โฃ
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The problem isnโ€™t that youโ€™re wrong. The problem is youโ€™re making everything about you ๐ฆ๐ž๐š๐ง ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฐ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐  ๐š๐›๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ.โฃ
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Youโ€™re allowed to be here. โฃ
Youโ€™re allowed to take up space. โฃ
Youโ€™re allowed to have your juicy, exciting ideas.โฃ
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You created your business to break free of the very thing youโ€™re letting stand in your way - an employee mindset that follows the rules, constantly looks for guidance & validation, and believes that everything is happening to you instead of you being at cause for your life.โฃ

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Why should I work on overcoming my inner imposter early on in my business?

When Iโ€™ve asked more seasoned entrepreneurs what they wish they focused on more in the beginning of their business, they alllll told me - ๐Œ๐ข๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ž๐ญ. โฃ
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Because, it all comes down to the beliefs you hold about yourself, the world, money, and making money, honey.โฃ
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And it all comes down to the thoughts you have, how you respond to those thoughts, and then the stories you allow your thoughts to tell you.โฃ
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When you ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ต focus on mindset early on:โฃ
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โŒ youโ€™ll create limitations around what you can & cannot doโฃ
โŒ your strategy will fall flat because thereโ€™s no belief or energy in the executionโฃ
โŒ youโ€™ll take every rejection personallyโฃ
โŒ youโ€™ll spiral and then disappear, lacking consistencyโฃ
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When you ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ focus on mindset early on, youโ€™ll:โฃ
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โœจ break through limitations because you know everything can be figured outโฃ
โœจ rebound from setbacks fasterโฃ
โœจ de-personalize rejectionโฃ
โœจ maintain consistency because you trust yourself & your pathโฃ
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Thereโ€™s lots of ways you can incorporate mindset work into the beginn...

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The Sneakiest Way That Imposter Syndrome Fucks You Up

When you donโ€™t feel good enough, smart enough, or competent enough, you rely on other people to show you the way and help make your decisions - like a coach, a mentor, a parent, etc.โฃ
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And because youโ€™re constantly looking to others for guidance, when it comes time to make a decision for yourselfโ€ฆ.you freeze up. You feel incapable.

You panic, and then you sit in analysis paralysis, hoping that the perfect decision will just come to you.โฃ
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You think youโ€™re learning the ropes, but what youโ€™re really learning is not to trust yourself.โฃ
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Every decision you make sets a path into motion:โฃ
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Maybe you got a degree that you donโ€™t use now, but you met the love of your life in third year.โฃ
Maybe you were in a mastermind where you were disappointed with the content, but you learned what you didnโ€™t want in a coach and it led you to hire the right one next time.โฃ
Maybe you bombed a sales call or got rejected a bunch of times, but it led you to self-awareness & self-mastery.โฃ
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๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐ฌโ€ฆ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ฏ๐ž ๐ ๐จ๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐...

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Wondering What It's Like To Overcome Your Inner Imposter?

๐ˆ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐ง๐๐ž๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐ž๐ซ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ซโ€ฆโฃ
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The actual process of overcoming imposter syndrome may seem slow at first.โฃ
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Changing your thoughts?โฃ
Cultivating safety & trust in your body?โฃ
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These donโ€™t sound like easy things, do they?โฃ
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Itโ€™s like working out - it doesnโ€™t get easier, you just get stronger.โฃ
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And the benefits? Once you start to notice them, itโ€™s your motivation to keep going.โฃ
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They look like:โฃ
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๐Ÿ’ก Not needing to have all the answers to take action. You know that there is always more to learn and that ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ, you know enough to help somebody and to make an impact.โฃ
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๐ŸŒฌย  Emotional regulation & self-mastery - this looks like self-awareness out the hoo-ha, and action to match. You process things easier, are less reactive, and sustain habits that help you stay consistent and successful.โฃ
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๐Ÿ”‹ Boundaries out the hoo-ha, too. Not just with others, but yourself. You take time doing things you enjoy. You prioritize your energy first. You feel less at...

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Beliefs Are Just Thoughts That You Continue To Think Over And Over Again

๐“๐ก๐š๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ.โฃ
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Itโ€™s not a disease, or a life sentence. Itโ€™s just a pattern of thoughts that you have continued to think over & over again, because of beliefs that have been misinterpreted from past experiences that youโ€™ve given truth to and continued to perpetuate.โฃ
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Suuuper chill, right? ๐Ÿคฃโฃ
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But the thing is, youโ€™re ๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜บ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ with these beliefs. โฃ
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You truly ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ believe that because of who you are, where you came from, and what you have to offer, youโ€™re unable to achieve what you want to achieve. โฃ
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You truly ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ believe that youโ€™re faking people out and theyโ€™re going to find out youโ€™re not as intelligent or capable as youโ€™re making it seem.โฃ
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๐๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ฎ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค, ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ & ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐š๐ ๐š๐ข๐ง.โฃ
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And so is imposter syndrome.โฃ
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It is ๐˜ซ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต a dysfunctional thinking pattern. One that is deeply rooted in the beliefs you hold about yourself and the world, buuuuut still ๐˜ซ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต a dysfunctional thinking pattern - which means itโ€™s something you can uncover, release, and rewrite....

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Do You Think That Your Biggest Insecurity Is Why You're Not Good Enough?

๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐›๐ข๐ ๐ ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐œ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ž๐ง๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก.โฃ
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Why you should hold back, and play small.โฃ
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Why someone wouldnโ€™t want to buy from you.โฃ
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๐€๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ ๐›๐ž ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ.โฃ
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Because this is the meaning youโ€™re giving your story. And because you whole-heartedly believe this, you hide. You donโ€™t talk about your services how you wish you could. You donโ€™t have boundaries with yourself or your audience/clients.โฃ
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Whereas someone with the exact same story as you, could be using it as her hero story. As to WHY sheโ€™s good enough. As to why someone would want to buy from her, because sheโ€™s unapologetically herself and embraces the parts of her that she knows other people can relate to.โฃ
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And sheโ€™d be right, too. Because sheโ€™s choosing for this story to empower her, instead of letting it keep her small.โฃ
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This is why ๐ง๐ž๐ฎ๐ซ๐จ-๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐œ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ ๐ซ๐š๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐  (๐๐‹๐) is so powerful. NLP allows us to access those subconscious stories and beliefs and change the way we feel and think about the...

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Shame Is Your Default Setting

So I don't know about you, but I always get my best ideas while driving!ย 

The other day while driving, I started thinking about being relatable and how I often shareย my real raw experiences with my audience.

So I never want to use really vague examples.

Whenever I'm talking about something, I use my own life and something that I've experienced and that I'm struggling with.

And even if I'm currently struggling with that, I'll be very open and transparent with my clients because I really believe that it is important and people really need to hear that they're not alone.

And that's because shame is our default setting!ย  Shame is whatย we resort to because it was how we were raised.

Aย lot of this generation was raised on shame.

I think about the time where I went to the grocery store with myย family when I was like 8 years old.ย And I stole like one of those tape gum things.

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I took it out of my pocket and showed it to my sister once we got into the car.

I was like look what I did!...

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Comparison Is An Avoidance Tactic

๐‚๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐š๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ข๐ฌ ๐š๐ง ๐š๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ญ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐œ.โฃ
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And itโ€™s total bull shit.โฃ
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Listen, itโ€™s normal to feel jealous and a little competitive. That โ€œgrass is greenerโ€ type of stuff is inevitable.โฃ
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But if the compulsion to compare is so often for you, that itโ€™s getting in the way of running your business - the empathy I have for you wonโ€™t last long.โฃ
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And thatโ€™s because youโ€™re letting your ego ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ. โฃ
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If you were to really put yourself out there and hear crickets, your ego would be bruised.โฃ


If you were to really not give a f*ck what others were doing or what they thought of you, you could be susceptible to their judgement or their rejection.โฃ
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So itโ€™s easier to compare, itโ€™s easier to focus on whatโ€™s ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต working for you and what ๐˜ช๐˜ด working for them.โฃ
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๐‘๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฉ๐ž๐š๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐š๐ซ๐ž๐š ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž - jealousy about what someone else is doing or what someone else has is your way of saying that you think theyโ€™re happy, and thatโ€™s what you want to be.โฃ
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With your business, youโ€™re seeing what someone else is doing...

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