I call myself an Imposter Syndrome Expert, but not ๐ซ๐ถ๐ด๐ต because I have a psychology-educated background and experience with people who struggle with it.โฃ
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๐๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐๐๐๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ ๐ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐๐ก, that I know firsthand how feeling like an imposter can affect every part of your life.โฃ
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Each step towards my progress was made anxiously and with negative expectation, waiting for the other shoe to drop. โฃ
Waiting for someone to look at me and go, โYou donโt belong hereโ. โฃ
Waiting for this arbitrary โmomentโ where I would be called out and lose everything.โฃ
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My boundaries were non-existent.โฃ
I was judgemental of others to protect myself. โฃ
I worried about my clientsโ results because I thought it meant something about me. โฃ
I was always feeling scarce even when I started to make money, because I worried it would just ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ข๐ธ๐ข๐บ one day.โฃ
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The way to release these scarce thoughts & feelings so your business doesnโt feel like an emotional energy vacuum?โฃ
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๐๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค. Uncover, release, and rewrite. Bl...
๐๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐๐ฌ๐๐ญ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ ๐ ๐๐ก๐๐๐ค๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ๐๐ฆ.โฃ
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Itโs not something you do when youโre spiralling out of control.โฃ
Itโs not a trendy thing because everyone else is doing it.โฃ
Itโs not a one-way ticket to success because you see all the IG guruโs doing it.โฃ
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Itโs a ๐ฅ๐ข๐ช๐ญ๐บ ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ข๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ค๐ฆ.โฃ
Itโs an ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ช๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต.โฃ
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Itโs more than just journaling and lighting some candles.โฃ
Itโs acknowledging the painful shit that comes up.โฃ
Itโs choosing the better thought, over and over again.โฃ
Itโs knowing that things are going to work out, even when it looks like they wonโt.โฃ
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Itโs feeling good and calm and flowy, and still doing your morning routine because you know that itโs what keeps you feeling good and calm and flowy.โฃ
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Itโs feeling safe in your body and safe in your business - and knowing that it takes the ๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค to do this.โฃ
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Youโve always felt ๐ธ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐จ.โฃ
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Your opinions didnโt feel legitimate until they were validated by someone else.โฃ
Your ideas were kept secret because you thought they were stupid.โฃ
Your feelings felt unwarranted because you thought you had โno rightโ to feel that way.โฃ
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Youโre always looking for the right thing โ the right decision, the right path, the right message.โฃ
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Did it ever occur to you that the answer is to fully fucking accept yourself for who you are and then go from there?โฃ
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The problem isnโt that youโre wrong. The problem is youโre making everything about you ๐ฆ๐๐๐ง ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ.โฃ
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Youโre allowed to be here. โฃ
Youโre allowed to take up space. โฃ
Youโre allowed to have your juicy, exciting ideas.โฃ
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You created your business to break free of the very thing youโre letting stand in your way - an employee mindset that follows the rules, constantly looks for guidance & validation, and believes that everything is happening to you instead of you being at cause for your life.โฃ
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When Iโve asked more seasoned entrepreneurs what they wish they focused on more in the beginning of their business, they alllll told me - ๐๐ข๐ง๐๐ฌ๐๐ญ. โฃ
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Because, it all comes down to the beliefs you hold about yourself, the world, money, and making money, honey.โฃ
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And it all comes down to the thoughts you have, how you respond to those thoughts, and then the stories you allow your thoughts to tell you.โฃ
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When you ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฏโ๐ต focus on mindset early on:โฃ
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โ youโll create limitations around what you can & cannot doโฃ
โ your strategy will fall flat because thereโs no belief or energy in the executionโฃ
โ youโll take every rejection personallyโฃ
โ youโll spiral and then disappear, lacking consistencyโฃ
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When you ๐ฅ๐ฐ focus on mindset early on, youโll:โฃ
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โจ break through limitations because you know everything can be figured outโฃ
โจ rebound from setbacks fasterโฃ
โจ de-personalize rejectionโฃ
โจ maintain consistency because you trust yourself & your pathโฃ
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Thereโs lots of ways you can incorporate mindset work into the beginn...
When you donโt feel good enough, smart enough, or competent enough, you rely on other people to show you the way and help make your decisions - like a coach, a mentor, a parent, etc.โฃ
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And because youโre constantly looking to others for guidance, when it comes time to make a decision for yourselfโฆ.you freeze up. You feel incapable.
You panic, and then you sit in analysis paralysis, hoping that the perfect decision will just come to you.โฃ
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You think youโre learning the ropes, but what youโre really learning is not to trust yourself.โฃ
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Every decision you make sets a path into motion:โฃ
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Maybe you got a degree that you donโt use now, but you met the love of your life in third year.โฃ
Maybe you were in a mastermind where you were disappointed with the content, but you learned what you didnโt want in a coach and it led you to hire the right one next time.โฃ
Maybe you bombed a sales call or got rejected a bunch of times, but it led you to self-awareness & self-mastery.โฃ
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๐๐ก๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ฌโฆ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ๐ฏ๐ ๐ ๐จ๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐...
๐ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ๐ซ๐ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐๐ซ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ซโฆโฃ
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The actual process of overcoming imposter syndrome may seem slow at first.โฃ
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Changing your thoughts?โฃ
Cultivating safety & trust in your body?โฃ
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These donโt sound like easy things, do they?โฃ
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Itโs like working out - it doesnโt get easier, you just get stronger.โฃ
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And the benefits? Once you start to notice them, itโs your motivation to keep going.โฃ
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They look like:โฃ
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๐ก Not needing to have all the answers to take action. You know that there is always more to learn and that ๐ณ๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ต ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ, you know enough to help somebody and to make an impact.โฃ
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๐ฌย Emotional regulation & self-mastery - this looks like self-awareness out the hoo-ha, and action to match. You process things easier, are less reactive, and sustain habits that help you stay consistent and successful.โฃ
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๐ Boundaries out the hoo-ha, too. Not just with others, but yourself. You take time doing things you enjoy. You prioritize your energy first. You feel less at...
๐๐ก๐๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ.โฃ
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Itโs not a disease, or a life sentence. Itโs just a pattern of thoughts that you have continued to think over & over again, because of beliefs that have been misinterpreted from past experiences that youโve given truth to and continued to perpetuate.โฃ
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Suuuper chill, right? ๐คฃโฃ
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But the thing is, youโre ๐ช๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต๐ช๐ง๐บ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ with these beliefs. โฃ
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You truly ๐ฅ๐ฐ believe that because of who you are, where you came from, and what you have to offer, youโre unable to achieve what you want to achieve. โฃ
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You truly ๐ฅ๐ฐ believe that youโre faking people out and theyโre going to find out youโre not as intelligent or capable as youโre making it seem.โฃ
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๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐๐๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ฎ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค, ๐จ๐ฏ๐๐ซ & ๐จ๐ฏ๐๐ซ ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐ง.โฃ
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And so is imposter syndrome.โฃ
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It is ๐ซ๐ถ๐ด๐ต a dysfunctional thinking pattern. One that is deeply rooted in the beliefs you hold about yourself and the world, buuuuut still ๐ซ๐ถ๐ด๐ต a dysfunctional thinking pattern - which means itโs something you can uncover, release, and rewrite....
๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐ข๐ ๐ ๐๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ๐ซ๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐๐ง๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก.โฃ
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Why you should hold back, and play small.โฃ
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Why someone wouldnโt want to buy from you.โฃ
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๐๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ๐ ๐๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ.โฃ
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Because this is the meaning youโre giving your story. And because you whole-heartedly believe this, you hide. You donโt talk about your services how you wish you could. You donโt have boundaries with yourself or your audience/clients.โฃ
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Whereas someone with the exact same story as you, could be using it as her hero story. As to WHY sheโs good enough. As to why someone would want to buy from her, because sheโs unapologetically herself and embraces the parts of her that she knows other people can relate to.โฃ
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And sheโd be right, too. Because sheโs choosing for this story to empower her, instead of letting it keep her small.โฃ
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This is why ๐ง๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐จ-๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ (๐๐๐) is so powerful. NLP allows us to access those subconscious stories and beliefs and change the way we feel and think about the...
So I don't know about you, but I always get my best ideas while driving!ย
The other day while driving, I started thinking about being relatable and how I often shareย my real raw experiences with my audience.
So I never want to use really vague examples.
Whenever I'm talking about something, I use my own life and something that I've experienced and that I'm struggling with.
And even if I'm currently struggling with that, I'll be very open and transparent with my clients because I really believe that it is important and people really need to hear that they're not alone.
And that's because shame is our default setting!ย Shame is whatย we resort to because it was how we were raised.
Aย lot of this generation was raised on shame.
I think about the time where I went to the grocery store with myย family when I was like 8 years old.ย And I stole like one of those tape gum things.
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I took it out of my pocket and showed it to my sister once we got into the car.
I was like look what I did!...
๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ง ๐๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ญ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐.โฃ
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And itโs total bull shit.โฃ
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Listen, itโs normal to feel jealous and a little competitive. That โgrass is greenerโ type of stuff is inevitable.โฃ
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But if the compulsion to compare is so often for you, that itโs getting in the way of running your business - the empathy I have for you wonโt last long.โฃ
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And thatโs because youโre letting your ego ๐ธ๐ช๐ฏ. โฃ
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If you were to really put yourself out there and hear crickets, your ego would be bruised.โฃ
If you were to really not give a f*ck what others were doing or what they thought of you, you could be susceptible to their judgement or their rejection.โฃ
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So itโs easier to compare, itโs easier to focus on whatโs ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต working for you and what ๐ช๐ด working for them.โฃ
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๐๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฒ ๐๐ซ๐๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ - jealousy about what someone else is doing or what someone else has is your way of saying that you think theyโre happy, and thatโs what you want to be.โฃ
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With your business, youโre seeing what someone else is doing...
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