Belief 𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲 yields results.
A study was done on a first grade classroom and their teacher. At the beginning of the year, the teacher was told that all of the students were tested, and that 5 of the kids were gifted. At the end of the year, the students were tested again, and those same 5 children had exceptional results.
But the teacher was only 𝘵𝘰𝘭𝘥 that those 5 children tested as gifted in the beginning of the year - they actually tested normal. HOWEVER, at the end of the year, those 5 children actually 𝘥𝘪𝘥 test as gifted.
Why? Because the teacher 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗱 that those 5 children were gifted. She believed in them and treated them as gifted, which yielded high-performing results.
𝗕𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁.
Belief in who you are, what you sell, and who you help. Belief that it’s working. Belief that you’re on the track. Belief that you’re already worthy, and the rest will come.
𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵 happens between knowing you’re worthy, and the manifestation, the clients,...
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞.
We live in a world of the “just fucking do it” and the “you get what you work for” mentality. Discipline was seen as authoritative, that there was a “right” or “wrong” way to be.
You were taught that in order to get the results you wanted, you had to do things you didn’t want to do, but that you were “supposed” to do.
Does the phrase, “You can’t just do anything you want” ring a bell?
This particular story was one that I had to rewrite for myself.
The story that told me I couldn’t have fun and make money. That it had to be hard. That resting in bed all weekend was bad. That I had to be working on my business 8 hours a day to be successful. That swearing on the internet would make people not like me. That it was rude to talk about how much money I’ve made.
It all stemmed from punishing myself and making myself feel bad for being the...
Have you ever heard/gotten results for yourself & your clients and still felt like a fraud?
I have to ask - are you fully showing up as yourself?
𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞-𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬-𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧-𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐲𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫. You don’t feel good enough or capable enough, so you mould your personality, your actions, your services & prices, and your IG stories to please the masses, hoping not to be outed or criticized.
You’ve gotten so used to 𝘢𝘷𝘰𝘪𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 - judgement or criticism or feeling bad, that you present a version of yourself that is not authentic. Because while you’re posting that you’re a bad bitch, you feel like a fraud, think no one cares what you have to say, and that what you’re doing isn’t “working”.
So what do you think will happen when you start to see success? That “fake it til you make it” attitude will become even more anxiousness, worry, and lack of transparency/authenticity - because you believe that...
I recently had a client ask how she could change the habit of sleeping in, in order to become her highest self.
Instead of giving her tips like creating an evening routine so you go to bed earlier, listening to subliminals while you sleep, rewarding yourself for waking up early - I asked her what the big fucking deal was with sleeping in.
I encouraged her to ask herself what she was making it mean that she was sleeping in. 𝘏𝘪𝘯𝘵: Society tells us that sleeping in is lazy. But is that objectively true?
𝘏𝘪𝘯𝘵: No. Lol
We realized that she actually was a night owl, and was just shaming herself for not doing her work earlier in the day - even though she got plenty of work done when she slept in and worked in the afternoon/evening.
My question to her, and to you, is the same.
𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐟𝐮𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟?
Your problem is that you’re living under the But’s - But if I let myself sleep in, I won’t get any work done. But I’ve never had that kind of...
This year, on my 29th birthday, my high school sweetheart proposed to me and asked me to be his wife! We’re so excited.
And you should know, I’ve waited foreverrrrr for this moment - we were 15 when we started dating. And about 5 years ago, I really started to wonder when the ring was coming.
It became a running joke in my family (Dustin was super happy about that ), and I would think constantly about what it would be like once we were engaged and could plan our wedding.
I always knew the ring was coming, even when it wasn’t a physical manifestation yet. And when a couple years went by and I saw everyone else getting engaged, married, having kids (𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘰𝘸𝘯𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦!), I started to wonder when it would happen for me.
𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐭 𝐝𝐢𝐝! And every little thing over the past 14 years didn’t matter anymore.
Your business is this way, too.
Every investment you’ve made, every task you’ve completed, every late night you’ve spent...
𝐎𝐟 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐚 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐲𝐧𝐝𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐞, 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐰𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬.
But why would you want to?
It would be like going up a mountain without any water. Sure, you can get to your destination - but how was the journey?
Were you stepping more and more into your power, taking every step in stride, feeling rejuvenated and hydrated? Were you positive you’d make it?
Or were you looking around and anxiously stopping along the way, trying to preserve your energy? Did you feel scarce, anxious, and unsure? Were you constantly questioning your every move and wondering if you were gonna make it?
No, the inner work isn’t a requirement to making money in entrepreneurship. But you’re here for more than just “making money” - this is your life’s work. You want to grow, scale, build an empire.
And while the way you’re trudging up the mountain may be working, it isn’t sustainable.
The way you’re...
The reason why it takes time to get to your next level is NOT because “it just takes time”.
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐥.
You see your success as a flight of stairs that you’re climbing - it all feels very restricted, rigid, and linear.
But it doesn’t have to be this hard. It doesn’t have to take such a long time.
Every time you uncover another layer of why you feel unworthy, you remove a heavy brick from the wall of your unworthiness. You acknowledge that part of you, validate that part of you, and release - and you give yourself permission to level up.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐜𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭. And then your second client. And then your first $5K month, and then your first $10K month.
𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭, 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘺𝘦𝘵.
𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞...
1 You don’t 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 want what you say you want.
You say you want 10 clients, but do you actually want 10 clients? Subconsciously, you could be resisting your goal because you know you don’t have the time or the resources.
Or maybe you don’t feel good enough, so even though you say you want clients, you actually don’t know what you’d even do with them if you did have clients.
2 You don’t feel worthy of what you want.
You have a goal to make $100K in your business this year - and even though so many people in this space have done that, you don’t think that you can achieve that based on what you think & feel about yourself.
3 You subconsciously think the thing you want will make you uncomfortable or it will be difficult.
And then if you have to be uncomfortable or the tasks to get to your goal are perceived as “difficult”, you’re afraid that those negative feelings will lead you down the shame spiral or make you feel bad, so...
This Is What I Call The Other Shoe Effect
When you’re subconsciously pushing away good-feeling experiences in your business because when you feel good, your internal alarm goes off, letting you know that something bad might happen.
So you subconsciously push away success or feeling good, because you’re worried that something bad has to happen as a result of your happiness.
This might look like - not celebrating after a good launch or signing a client, feeling the need to overwork and “do” more when things are feeling calm + easy, or spending more money than you’re making once you start hitting higher months!
It’s important to remember that your brain is always trying to keep you safe. It’s job is to scope out danger when there’s uncertainty or when your “guard is down”.
Work on proving old stories wrong, consistently grounding yourself and your body, and practicing better feeling thoughts that won’t take you down...
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲.
You decide what you give meaning.
On the playground, I found out a boy in our class liked me. Another schoolmate turned to me and said, “Why would 𝘩𝘦 like 𝘺𝘰𝘶?”
I wondered what it could possibly be. My hair, my face, the clothes I wore? I settled on what made sense to me - the fact that I stuttered.
I decided that this boy wouldn’t like me if he got to know me, because then he’d realize that I stuttered, and that was the worst thing about me.
I carried this story with me everywhere I went. I grew up with this story.
It loomed over me like a dark cloud.
I made every no, every rejection, every side sneer, every negative interaction 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 that I was incapable, unworthy, unintelligent, unlovable - all because I was a person who stuttered.
You’re the same. You have something that you lean towards when you’re not getting your way. You have something that you’ve decided makes you unworthy, incapable, unintelligent,...