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A KEY element we are working within my group coaching container - the From Impostor to Empowered (FITE) Program, is your most worthy, highest self. People say the next level self, highest self; I call her your worthy woman identity, whatever you call it - it is that highest version of you. The elevated version of you that has what you want, who you want to be, and embodies the thoughts, habits, behaviors, and actions that you imagine you’d embody if you were the best version of yourself.
Highest self work is so freakin’ potent and fun to play with, because if you do it right, you will inevitably become that highest and best version of yourself over time. But how do you actually begin this process? How do you actually start becoming that highest and best version of yourself?
So for one, the reason why we do highest self work is because:
1) It is the...
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This podcast episode was inspired by a conversation with a 1:1 client that I thought was so good and juicy, you guys needed to hear this message, too.
So she dropped into What’s App one day, and was talking about her attraction marketing strategy and how she feels like her desperate or lack mentality is not going to attract clients to her. And when we pulled the threads at her lack and scarcity mentality, what we found was so interesting to me - but definitely not uncommon. You see, my client is as safe as can be. She has the support she needs, she has the money she needs, her bills are paid, she has a home, she’s got clients in her business - she is safe. But despite being safe with her money, she has this feeling of desperation, lack, and scarcity that she is creating through her thoughts of needing more clients, more success, just more in general when it comes to her...
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Let’s talk about speaking to your soulmate client - speaking their language, and the mindset of being able to do this.
The first thing I want to say is that you are already perfect. Did you know that? You don’t need to flip a switch in how you show up and start talking like a robot when you think about speaking to your soulmate client. Your soulmate client is a human, people! They are just like you. I always say that your soulmate client is usually a couple steps behind you, right? So you don’t need to contort your language, or use big stupid words - just speak like a normal human, okay? And that means you might need to distill your language a bit.
So I made this mistake TWICE in my business - once was in the beginning, when I started my business, and the second was when I started making a lot of money.
In the beginning, I was coming off of my...
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Attracting clients through showing up is what happens when you have potent levels of self-belief. Because when you love yourself, when you’re confident in yourself and what you have to offer, it is easy to show up and share your work with the world. To put it very simply, that is what creates consistency without effort.
My clients ask me all the time, Jill where the f*ck do you get the energy to show up all the time? And the truth is, I am a very low energy person. Social media makes me tired - BUT, my business energizes me. It excites me to think about signing clients, making money, doing my sacred work. Truly, it does! And I choose to market my services via social media, and therefore, I decide that the energy it takes to do that - is worth it.
So, how do you consistently show up for your audience from a place of self-belief?
I want you to first understand that...
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How can you charge 4-figures for your coaching package? Even if you have charged more than $1000 before, this will still come up for my clients who have thoughts around what coaching is worth, and not believing someone will pay them a certain amount when they increase their prices. So let’s get down to business!
So here are the things I think you need to get your brain around:
The value of emotional labour
Getting clear on your impossible result
Having a GOOD process you take your clients through; and
Being the supporting actor when you think you’re the main character
First, you have to believe in the value of emotional labour. If you think about it from a societal and patriarchal perspective, emotional labor is not seen as worthy and as important than other kinds of...
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I had a 1:1 client the other day who has already made 6-figures in her business. During our session, she said “Oh I’m in pajamas right now, I’ve been in pajamas all day, I should be more put together.” I asked her what she meant by that, and she said that “6-figure coaches don’t wear pajamas all day.” And I just thought that was sooo funny. Not in the way that I was laughing at her, but I was laughing at the fact that so many of us come from corporate backgrounds, like this client and we think quitting our jobs and running our own businesses will free us from those chains of restriction and professionalism, and what we make that mean - and really, we bring those things with us. I asked her, “What if you were told about how many millionaires sit around in sweatpants all day?”
Because the truth is, there are so many...
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Here’s one thought you need to have, that will honestly make you thousands of dollars as a coach - and in any industry:
“Nobody can do it like me.”
And the reason why you may not be making thousands of dollars is because you don’t believe this thought. Believing that nobody can do it like you would mean that you’d have to hold what you know in high regard. To believe that you’re an expert, and worthy of being respected and recognized as one.
Here’s the easiest way you can begin to bridge the gap between not thinking this and believing with your whole heart - there is truly nobody in this world with your energetic blueprint.
With your fingerprint, even. You have your own sacred, unique identity in this world. Nobody else has had the exact same experiences, plus your education, plus your history, plus your...
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What has come to mind for me is how much we hear how you have to step outside of your comfort zone. How much we hear that nothing good ever happens inside your comfort zone, and you need to step out of it. It's going to feel uncomfortable.
But then when it actually happens, we want to freak out and make it mean something. We want to go down the rabbit hole. We want to make it mean that because I'm uncomfortable before doing a coaching call, that I'm not good enough and that I'm not supposed to be coaching and that this person hates me and that I'm never going to be able to get another client again.
That is just one example of something that could happen when we make our uncomfortable feelings mean something about ourselves. As an online entrepreneur, there is always going to be a level of discomfort for you. You are not pushing the envelope if you feel...
I used to nod my head religiously when someone would talk about self-care, but I low-key thought it was unnecessary.
When my coaches said, “You deserve to take a break”, I would agree but be thinking in the back of my mind “Pfft, I don’t have time for that.”
When something went wrong in my business or someone said no, I’d latch onto my negative thoughts and throw myself a pity party, saying shit like “Why can’t it happen for ๐ฎ๐ฆ?!?”
It was because I believed I wasn’t worthy of receiving.
I have always rejected compliments.
If someone did something for me, I had the immediate urge to repay them.
I couldn’t take credit for my work or be praised for it (๐ค๐ญ๐ข๐ด๐ด๐ช๐ค ๐ช๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ด๐บ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ).
I was also conditioned to believe that women that did things for themselves were selfish - so any type of self-care or self-indulgence I participated in was paired with a thick layer of guilt, meaning I could never enjoy anything.
This all came from a...
๐ฆ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐บ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐๐ ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐บ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐๐ ๐ฐ๐น๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ ๐ฎ๐น๐น ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐บ๐ผ๐ป?
They all become the #WorthyWoman version of themselves, over and over again, to achieve the next goal and the next goal and the next goal.
They have habits and rituals that they stick to.
They actively work on changing the negative voice inside their head to one of empowerment.
They surround themselves with people who get it.
They are always embodying and acting from the highest version of themselves.
These are money-making activities
Your identity, your thoughts, your beliefs - they’re influencing the way you see your business, which affects your behaviour and creates your results.
If your thoughts were a cake, what would the result be when you took it out of the oven?
Your childhood unicorn birthday cake (๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ช๐ต’๐ฅ ๐ฃ๐ฆ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ)?
Or is it lopsided, messy, and not exactly what you were going for (๐ฃ๐ถ๐ต ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ’๐ท๐ฆ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ช๐ต’๐ญ๐ญ ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ)?
๐๐’๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ...
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