When you don’t feel good enough, smart enough, or competent enough, you rely on other people to show you the way and help make your decisions - like a coach, a mentor, a parent, etc.⁣
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And because you’re constantly looking to others for guidance, when it comes time to make a decision for yourself….you freeze up. You feel incapable.

You panic, and then you sit in analysis paralysis, hoping that the perfect decision will just come to you.⁣
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You think you’re learning the ropes, but what you’re really learning is not to trust yourself.⁣
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Every decision you make sets a path into motion:⁣
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Maybe you got a degree that you don’t use now, but you met the love of your life in third year.⁣
Maybe you were in a mastermind where you were disappointed with the content, but you learned what you didn’t want in a coach and it led you to hire the right one next time.⁣
Maybe you bombed a sales call or got rejected a bunch of times, but it led you to self-awareness & self-mastery.⁣
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𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬… 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐯𝐞 𝐠𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐝...

𝐈 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫…⁣
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The actual process of overcoming imposter syndrome may seem slow at first.⁣
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Changing your thoughts?⁣
Cultivating safety & trust in your body?⁣
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These don’t sound like easy things, do they?⁣
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It’s like working out - it doesn’t get easier, you just get stronger.⁣
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And the benefits? Once you start to notice them, it’s your motivation to keep going.⁣
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They look like:⁣
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💡 Not needing to have all the answers to take action. You know that there is always more to learn and that 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘸, you know enough to help somebody and to make an impact.⁣
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🌬  Emotional regulation & self-mastery - this looks like self-awareness out the hoo-ha, and action to match. You process things easier, are less reactive, and sustain habits that help you stay consistent and successful.⁣
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🔋 Boundaries out the hoo-ha, too. Not just with others, but yourself. You take time doing things you enjoy. You prioritize your energy first. You feel less at...

𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬.⁣
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It’s not a disease, or a life sentence. It’s just a pattern of thoughts that you have continued to think over & over again, because of beliefs that have been misinterpreted from past experiences that you’ve given truth to and continued to perpetuate.⁣
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Suuuper chill, right? 🤣⁣
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But the thing is, you’re 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 with these beliefs. ⁣
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You truly 𝘥𝘰 believe that because of who you are, where you came from, and what you have to offer, you’re unable to achieve what you want to achieve. ⁣
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You truly 𝘥𝘰 believe that you’re faking people out and they’re going to find out you’re not as intelligent or capable as you’re making it seem.⁣
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𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤, 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 & 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧.⁣
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And so is imposter syndrome.⁣
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It is 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 a dysfunctional thinking pattern. One that is deeply rooted in the beliefs you hold about yourself and the world, buuuuut still 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 a dysfunctional thinking pattern - which means it’s something you can uncover, release, and rewrite....

So I don't know about you, but I always get my best ideas while driving! 

The other day while driving, I started thinking about being relatable and how I often share my real raw experiences with my audience.

So I never want to use really vague examples.

Whenever I'm talking about something, I use my own life and something that I've experienced and that I'm struggling with.

And even if I'm currently struggling with that, I'll be very open and transparent with my clients because I really believe that it is important and people really need to hear that they're not alone.

And that's because shame is our default setting!  Shame is what we resort to because it was how we were raised.

A lot of this generation was raised on shame.

I think about the time where I went to the grocery store with my family when I was like 8 years old. And I stole like one of those tape gum things.

I took it out of my pocket and showed it to my sister once we got into the car.

I was like look what I did!...

Let’s say you’re a Mindset Coach who uses human design in their business.⁣

⁣If you grew up around people who used human design often and who thought running a coaching business from social media was the norm, you wouldn’t be constantly questioning if they think what you’re doing online is weird.⁣

⁣And that’s because your paradigm, which is defined as a pattern of being or a model, is different than what they’re used to.

And typically, people who aren’t committed to mindset work or personal development aren’t actively changing their paradigm.⁣⁣ 

There’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing, it’s just 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 from the paradigm that the people around you have used to.⁣ 

⁣When you’re around people who get what you’re doing, whether that’s in person or online, it’s less likely you’ll question if what you’re doing is 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 or 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨.⁣

⁣𝐑𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐦𝐞: The value of my services doesn’t change based on who’s looking at them.⁣

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So, even if someone from high school is watching your ...

Hey MTV 📺, welcome to my crib (𝘈𝘒𝘈 this blog), where we talk a lot about symptoms of experiencing imposter syndrome….⁣
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But on this fine Friday, I wanted to shed light on the good shit that you may be experiencing because you’re doing the werk ✨ so, here are 4 ways that you’re overcoming imposter syndrome:⁣
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💸 Someone says "no" to your offer and it doesn't ruin your day.⁣
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Sometimes, a no means not right now or not this offer. Also, just because an offer isn’t right for one person, doesn’t mean it’s not perfect for another. You are someone’s sparkly unicorn.⁣
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🎙 You don't feel the need to over-prepare for guest speaking gigs or coaching calls.⁣
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Of course, if you do better with notes, that’s totally okay - but you know your shit, and people usually want to hear what YOU think about your shit - so own that shit 💩⁣
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💕 You easily detach from your client's actions, because you know you're doing your best to help them and they have to do the work, too.⁣
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Client experience is QUEEN - but if you do ...

Long story short, this is my hot take:⁣
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NOPE! 
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And here’s why - money doesn’t magically change the course of your thoughts.⁣
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Let’s say that you think you feel like a fraud because you can’t book a client. You think to yourself….⁣
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❌ I’m not good enough.⁣
❌ It seems like I don’t know what I’m doing.⁣
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But then yay, you sign a client! Smooth sailing now, right?! ⁣
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Until the initial excitement wears off, and you’re thinking about your first call or your first project with your new client. You suddenly start to have the same thoughts, because what if you do a job and they don’t like it? What if you’re on the call with them and you don’t know what to say?⁣
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𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟, 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 - and beliefs cannot instantly disappear simply from receiving a couple of PayPal notifications 👀⁣
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If you feel like an imposter and think you’ll be cured by someone signing a contract...I can guarantee you, it’s your thoughts...

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐢𝐭, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐬𝐡.⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You’re listening to your inner imposter and telling yourself that you’re not ready.⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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✨ That next client that validates how great you are⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
✨ That next certification⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
✨ That next big number of Instagram followers⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You can finally start 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 successful.⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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All the while, there is someone out there who truly needs what you have to offer - and you’re denying them of that, all because your 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘮𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But if you’re really certain about what you want, you have to do it scared.⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You have to get on the calls, make the sales pitch, put out the content - even when it scares you. Even when it’s tiring. Even when you think no one is watching.⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So yeah, maybe you’re afraid that taking the risk or going after the thing is going to c...

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I’m just going to serve you the tea today because I’m here to tell you that your coaching package is too goddamn FLUFFY.

So WHAT do I mean by this?

I bet that you’re a coach who’s having no success at selling your offer. Your first mistake is that you have too many offers on the go.  What I mean by this is when you’re first starting out or when you’re trying to really sell somebody, it’s so important to keep it SIMPLE. 

Simplicity is something that people buy into. They want to buy because the offer is clear and simple, and the results are tangible. 

I know what you’re thinking… I’m a life coach, I’m a mindset coach, I’m a confidence coach. I don’t have tangible results. Oh, you ABSOLUTELY do. When people feel better, they are their best selves, they show up differently and they take action differently, which produces results. So don’t you dare come at me with those excuses! 

Wh...

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One of the ways Imposter Syndrome sabotages your business is by negatively affecting your motivation. You may feel this way because you’re insecure about your business, you sense that nobody wants your services, and you feel like no matter how much effort you put in, you’re not getting anything in return. 

You push on thinking that your hard work is the only thing that determines your worth. If you happen to take a few days off it can create a feeling of being out of sorts because you start feeling insecure about yourself and you can’t pinpoint which direction you want to take your business in. That, in turn, can make you lose all motivation towards that particular project or trying to create new ideas. It can take the wind right out of your sail!

For example, let’s say you’re trying to come up with new content ideas for your Instagram, the lack of motivation and drive can impede y...