1 You don’t 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 want what you say you want.

You say you want 10 clients, but do you actually want 10 clients? Subconsciously, you could be resisting your goal because you know you don’t have the time or the resources.

Or maybe you don’t feel good enough, so even though you say you want clients, you actually don’t know what you’d even do with them if you did have clients.

2 You don’t feel worthy of what you want.

You have a goal to make $100K in your business this year - and even though so many people in this space have done that, you don’t think that you can achieve that based on what you think & feel about yourself.

3 You subconsciously think the thing you want will make you uncomfortable or it will be difficult.

And then if you have to be uncomfortable or the tasks to get to your goal are perceived as “difficult”, you’re afraid that those negative feelings will lead you down the shame spiral or make you feel bad, so...

𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐤𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐦.

It’s not something you do when you’re spiralling out of control.
It’s not a trendy thing because everyone else is doing it.
It’s not a one-way ticket to success because you see all the IG guru’s doing it.

It’s a 𝘥𝘢𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦.
It’s an 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵.

It’s more than just journaling and lighting some candles.
It’s acknowledging the painful shit that comes up.
It’s choosing the better thought, over and over again.
It’s knowing that things are going to work out, even when it looks like they won’t.

It’s feeling good and calm and flowy, and still doing your morning routine because you know that it’s what keeps you feeling good and calm and flowy.

It’s feeling safe in your body and safe in your business - and knowing that it takes the 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 to do this.

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When you don’t feel good enough, smart enough, or competent enough, you rely on other people to show you the way and help make your decisions - like a coach, a mentor, a parent, etc.

And because you’re constantly looking to others for guidance, when it comes time to make a decision for yourself….you freeze up. You feel incapable.

You panic, and then you sit in analysis paralysis, hoping that the perfect decision will just come to you.

You think you’re learning the ropes, but what you’re really learning is not to trust yourself.

Every decision you make sets a path into motion:

Maybe you got a degree that you don’t use now, but you met the love of your life in third year.
Maybe you were in a mastermind where you were disappointed with the content, but you learned what you didn’t want in a coach and it led you to hire the right one next time.
Maybe you bombed a sales call or got rejected a bunch of times, but it led you to self-awareness &...

𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜.

And it’s total bull shit.

Listen, it’s normal to feel jealous and a little competitive. That “grass is greener” type of stuff is inevitable.

But if the compulsion to compare is so often for you, that it’s getting in the way of running your business - the empathy I have for you won’t last long.

And that’s because you’re letting your ego 𝘸𝘪𝘯.

If you were to really put yourself out there and hear crickets, your ego would be bruised.

If you were to really not give a f*ck what others were doing or what they thought of you, you could be susceptible to their judgement or their rejection.

So it’s easier to compare, it’s easier to focus on what’s 𝘯𝘰𝘵 working for you and what 𝘪𝘴 working for them.

𝐑𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐚 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 - jealousy about what someone else is doing or what someone else has is your way of saying that you think they’re happy, and that’s what you want to...

Let’s say you’re a Mindset Coach who uses human design in their business.

If you grew up around people who used human design often and who thought running a coaching business from social media was the norm, you wouldn’t be constantly questioning if they think what you’re doing online is weird.

And that’s because your paradigm, which is defined as a pattern of being or a model, is different than what they’re used to.

And typically, people who aren’t committed to mindset work or personal development aren’t actively changing their paradigm. 

There’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing, it’s just 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 from the paradigm that the people around you have used to. 

When you’re around people who get what you’re doing, whether that’s in person or online, it’s less likely you’ll question if what you’re doing is 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 or 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨.

𝐑𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐦𝐞: The value of my services...

Hey MTV , welcome to my crib (𝘈𝘒𝘈 this blog), where we talk a lot about symptoms of experiencing imposter syndrome….

But on this fine Friday, I wanted to shed light on the good shit that you may be experiencing because you’re doing the werk so, here are 4 ways that you’re overcoming imposter syndrome:

Someone says "no" to your offer and it doesn't ruin your day.

Sometimes, a no means not right now or not this offer. Also, just because an offer isn’t right for one person, doesn’t mean it’s not perfect for another. You are someone’s sparkly unicorn.

You don't feel the need to over-prepare for guest speaking gigs or coaching calls.

Of course, if you do better with notes, that’s totally okay - but you know your shit, and people usually want to hear what YOU think about your shit - so own that shit

You easily detach from your client's actions, because you know you're doing your best to help them and they have to do the work, too.

Client...

Do you roll your eyes when your coach tells you to access your higher self?

Maybe visualization doesn’t work for you
Maybe you have a hard time feeling the feels if you haven’t already accomplished your goal

So when someone tells you that how they’ve succeeded is by activating their highest self, you can’t help but dismiss that woo-woo bullshit and declare that it will never work for you.

Here's 3 ways you can actually start tapping into your highest self: 

𝘎𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘢 𝘯𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯.
Identifying the traits, feelings, and characteristics of someone who has what you desire is easier if you don’t have to imagine it’s you and all of your contributing beliefs & stories.

𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘻𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦.
If there’s someone you admire that already has what you want, ain’t no shame in visualizing what they’re doing and how they may be feeling. In NLP this is called modeling, and is an effective way of replicating a...

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐢𝐭, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐬𝐡.

You’re listening to your inner imposter and telling yourself that you’re not ready.

You’re thinking that once you get:

That next client that validates how great you are
That next certification
That next big number of Instagram followers

You can finally start 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 successful.

All the while, there is someone out there who truly needs what you have to offer - and you’re denying them of that, all because your 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘮𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.

But if you’re really certain about what you want, you have to do it scared.

You have to get on the calls, make the sales pitch, put out the content - even when it scares you. Even when it’s tiring. Even when you think no one is watching.

So yeah, maybe you’re afraid that taking the risk or going after the thing is going to cost you.

But truthfully….

What’s it costing you to 𝘯𝘰𝘵?

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If you would have asked me a year ago to crack open a notebook and start writing, I’d tell you that my hand gets sore after two minutes and that my writing is so bad, I can’t even read it sometimes (I did not get the girly writing gene). Journaling was something I did as a kid, and I distinctly remember keeping one on the first computer I ever had – I would talk about my day at school and how I was feeling, and at the end I would put an emotion as to how I feel that day was overall. Snaps for school-aged Jillian.

But as I became older and the digital age became more and more prominent, I wrote down my feelings less and less. We became consumed with things like social media, television, and other distractions that kept us occupied. This meant less time to think and ponder our thoughts. When I became a coach, I would see so many of my mentors in the entrepreneurial community talk about how beneficial journaling was; but still, I never jumped on the bandwagon.

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